Love + Sex

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Are you a stray at home mom?

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Just in time for Mother's Day, the New York Post has dropped quite a bomb: According to a new survey of 30,000 American moms, "A shocking 34 percent of mothers reported having had an extramarital affair after the birth of their children." Additionally, more than half confessed to contemplating straying on their spouses, and even more tragic, 48 percent of them claimed they suspected their husbands already had or were currently having an affair.

WTF is going on!?

Pilar Guzman, editor-in-chief of Cookie magazine, which co-conducted the study titled "Sex and the American Mom," said, "The somewhat startling statistics invite a closer look at the state of sex and the American marriage." I'll say. They also dug up the following:

"A considerable 77 percent of the women said they want more sex and 29 percent said they'd rather get more action in the sack than lose 10 pounds."

"One way lots of those ladies are keeping the home fires stoked is porn. Nearly a quarter of the respondents 'fessed up to looking at dirty pics and movies."

"Another 21 percent use booze to get in the swing of things, and 17 percent like fantasy play."

I guess there is some optimism (?) in there, but these numbers kind of freak me out. We know male cheating has been a hot topic lately, but who knew all these married ladies were getting all this side action too? Which brings up the question: Is it ever okay to cheat on your spouse?

Um, and would you rather lose 10 pounds or get more sex!?
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  • Keshtk's Avatar
    Posted by Keshtk Fri May 9, 2008 8:44am PDT

    i've always said i wouldn't cheat on my husband.....but i NEVER plan on gettin married. but com on if i'm not gettin it at home wat am i gonna do????

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    Posted by Keshtk Fri May 9, 2008 9:05am PDT

    i've always said i wouldn't cheat on my husband.....but i NEVER plan on gettin married. but com on if i'm not gettin it at home wat am i gonna do????

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  • Keshtk's Avatar
    Posted by Keshtk Fri May 9, 2008 9:06am PDT

    my co-worker jus said monogamy is overrated lol

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  • D's Avatar
    Posted by D Fri May 9, 2008 2:48pm PDT

    Having more sex to loose the 10 lbs. is what I would prefer.

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  • Holly's Avatar
    Posted by Holly Sat May 10, 2008 2:14pm PDT

    I sure hope none of you are ever victims of infidelity. Read "Not Just Friends", prevent from falling into a 'friendship' that becomes more. It's the cheater that has something wrong with them, not the betrayed.

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    Posted by Sun May 11, 2008 11:21pm PDT

    This article is pretty suspect. Women are just not that interested in sex, period. Sex may be a way for them to get something they want (money, a man's attention, a relationship, etc.). But this crap about all these sex starved women at home looking for sex is ridiculous. I've been married for almost 19 years and my wife won't have sex with me anymore (and yes, she would be the first to tell you she was satisfied with what happened in bed) unless she thinks I'm starting to lose interest. After a long time of thinking about my situation and watching friends dating relationships, it finally occurred to me that if a man has a job and earns a good income, there are a lot of women who will have sex with him in hopes that he'll enter into a permanent relationship with her. Once she gets him to do that, and especially if they have kids, women don't need to have sex with their husbands anymore. they think they hold no power over their husbands unless they withhold sex. So why keep giving him power over her? If he cheats, he's the b------ , no matter how many times his wife turns him down or how unattractive she allows herself to become. Whenever I see things like Elliot Spitzer cheating on his wife or Bill Clinton cheating on his wife, I refuse to feel sorry for these "poor humiliated women". Not only did they pass up good loyal guys to be with a womanizer who could make them look famous and feel important, but it's fairly clear that they also made their beds by cutting off almost all sexual relations. This story isn't about women wanting sex. It's about women wanting attention.

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  • s's Avatar
    Posted by s Mon May 12, 2008 11:28am PDT

    Carbollic and J-Fish,

    You guys hve it right! We, as women, tend to paint ourselves the victims. I've often wondered why no one tagged the other half of the illicit duo with any of the blame. Women crave the salitcious and the forbidden as much as men do.

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    Posted by s Mon May 12, 2008 11:42am PDT

    Um..."footcracka"... you're confused! Women, as a whole, love sex! We crave the connection, the release, the after glow.

    I agree that both partners have to work to keep a relationship interesting, but - baby - we want to get tangled in the sheets just as much as our men!!

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    Posted by Tue May 13, 2008 9:21am PDT

    Ok maybe I was a little harsh. I'm going through a separation right now, so feelings are a little raw. Maybe it's just the women here on the west coast. Maybe it's just me. I just hear a lot of stories from the guys I manage about how marriage is the end of sex. As much as we love our wives, we'll never understand some things.

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  • JFish's Avatar
    Posted by JFish Tue May 13, 2008 2:32pm PDT

    I feel for you footcracka, but I must disagree. A healthy, happy woman WANTS SEX.

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