I have dated a guy, we will call him Bill, who was everything a girl could want. He was kind, attentive, understanding, funny, and cute. However, he had one huge flaw I could not get around, he was dumb as a box of rocks. I know it seems vapid to say that I broke up with him because of it, but I did. I had a previous relationship where my ex was insecure about his intelligence and it was a catalyst in our break up. One fight I had with him was caused when I turned on the light that he and his buddy were trying to figure out for 20 minutes. His buddy made fun of him that I take care of everything. My ex snapped “If you ever want to know anything just ask her she knows it all” and stormed out. All for turning on a floor lamp, I was not trying to emasculate him, which is how he felt, especially when I would help him write his term papers. There of course were other factors in our break up, but this was a major contributor to our problems. When I saw that the same pattern could emerge with Bill I ended it.
I wish that it wasn’t so difficult for women to date someone who might not be quite on their level. I think that I did my self a favor and ended the relationship after one month before anyone got too invested and “Bill” is still a friend of mine. I think balance is the key, like when the say “they found their equal”. Maybe I am wrong and society needs to catch up. What do you think? Men does it bother you to date a woman who was is great deal smarter than you?
