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Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Birth Control Options

Do you ever feel like you're stuck between a rock and a hard place when it comes to birth control?

First, there's the condom. It's an accessible, relatively affordable option that doesn't wreak havoc on our bodies, but men (and many women) don't like them. Sex is all about rhythm, and the condom — while excellent for safe sex — totally disrupts it.

A diaphragm solves the rhythm problem. Your ob-gyn fits you for an appropriate size and you insert it before you so much as kiss your partner. A diaphragm can remain in place for multiple sessions of sex, as the rhythm moves you. Some women, however, say that their attempts at inserting and removing a diaphragm make it a less-than-ideal option.

Systemic birth-control methods (pills, shots, and patches) offer unparalleled convenience, but they often include undesirable effects. The pill and the patch may cause low libido, breast tenderness, and mood fluctuations. The Depo-Provera shot offers three months of continuous birth control and is an option for women who can't take estrogen. However, it may cause temporary bone thinning, and any additional side effects will be a nuisance until the shot has worn off (12 weeks). If you absolutely love the convenience of the pill or patch, check out NuvaRing. It may be a better alternative, with all the benefits and fewer side effects.

For women who don't plan on having children in the near future, an intrauterine device (IUD) could be close to perfect, since it remains in place for up to 12 years. However, many women are understandably wary of the small, but real, risk of scar tissue developing in the fallopian tubes, which can lead to trouble conceiving later.

For now, birth control is a matter of weighing the pros against the cons and going with the method that's good enough.

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  • Salo's Avatar
    Posted by Salo Sun Nov 22, 2009 2:16am PST

    DIANA WAT IS YOUR COMMENT ABOUT SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE WITH THE LOVER

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  • Diana's Avatar
    Posted by Diana Sun Nov 22, 2009 7:32am PST

    Salo - would need a few more details before I could answer you properly. Sounds like there may be too many people involved.

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  • another hockey fan's Avatar
    Posted by another hockey fan Sun Nov 22, 2009 12:07pm PST

    Diana: Good article. I'm so glad that you mentioned the side effects to the oral or injected types of BC because I've known at the age of 18 when I first became sexually active I was NEVER going to be on BC for those reasons alone. So many articles about BC try to promote the positive side (lighter periods or no periods) and I don't see the benefit when the real issue is it's still messing with the natural chemistry of your body. I truly believe I don't suffer from a lot of problems physical or mental that other women have because of it.

    So my choice has always been condoms and the Sponge when that was popular. Yes, it can take the romance out of the moment, but at my current age of 44 (and never having children by choice) my hubby will not get a vasectomy (something I don't understand, but it's not going to change) so we use condoms. It's a compromise.

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  • Diana's Avatar
    Posted by Diana Sun Nov 22, 2009 1:45pm PST

    Great words Hockey Fan...............after all - that's what life is all about, isn't it?

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  • lat969's Avatar
    Posted by lat969 Sun Nov 22, 2009 5:29pm PST

    Another option--which falls under the IUD--is Mirena. It is an inseratbale device that can be left in for up to 5 years. The biggest problem with this though is that sometimes it can be pulled out or become dislodged. I know this because I used to work for a GYN and that was the only complaint that we ever got. Patient would bring the device to the office and we would have to reinsert.

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  • Jennifer's Avatar
    Posted by Jennifer Sun Nov 22, 2009 7:43pm PST

    Another option would be the Vaginal Contraceptive Film. It's really thin, needs put in the woman onto the cervix 15 minutes prior to sex, lasts for 3 hours, and it dissolves naturally.

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