I didn't want to make this post but it's something
that's been really irritating me lately. I've seen a large
number of posts by women here talking about how they hate when guys
play games with them. I've read post after post about how
unfair women feel it is and how hard it is for them to find a guy
who won't just try to manipulate them. I even read a blog about
the technique of negging and another about a woman's issues
with date doctors.
HOWEVER, I don't understand why people seem to
ignore the fact that women have their own date doctors and have had
their books detailing male psychology for years. Years longer than
men have had their formal teachers. There's an advertisement on
this very site for crying out loud linking to one of these women
detailing "the secret psychology that makes him fall in love
and keeps him hooked for the long term."
http://www.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/index.asp?s=18872&default=1&spid=VGIZZZ&spids=VGIZZZ,0&spoptid=0
Now, this sounds a lot like the terminology that the dating doctors
use quite regularly and sounds like what was once known as a man
trap to me.
As some of you may know, I was raised by two women. I've been
raised to believe in chivalry and honor from a young age. I was
taught to respect women and value them as equals. I've
counseled numerous women and I'm well aware of the heartbreak
that women can suffer and I'm sympathetic to it. I know this is
a difficult game. This is why I have no problem with either side
stacking the deck in their favor and learning about the other side.
I do, however, have a problem with double standards. People are
entitled to their opinions, but what is with the hypocrisy?
Women, why is it that you criticize men for something and then
ignore it when your own gender does the EXACT SAME THING?! If you
have a problem with men learning dating techniques and psychology,
how is this any less deplorable? Why is this particular aspect not
condemned as well? How is this any different?
All I'm saying here, is that if you're willing to
call out men for a behavior shouldn't you be willing to do the
same thing for your own?
Can I please get some help?
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Posted by Wed May 6, 2009 6:45pm PDT
Report AbuseWell, I actually agree with you.
I have to admit, i do the same thing. But i think that girls just critisize guys because they take it in a wrong way. They think that guys just dont understand or are having problems with them. I dont really know why women take it that way. Because i know how girls are, of course; because i am one, but what i never understood was how girls can take things the wrong way, or they judge quicker than guys. I find myself doing it sometimes....Guess its just how us females are...
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Posted by Wed May 6, 2009 9:04pm PDT
Report Abusewell im not totaly with you on that because i think some guy's just like to toy with girl's emotion's i mean a girl want's someone who can treat them the way they deserve treated
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Posted by Thu May 7, 2009 5:24am PDT
Report Abusei admit girls do do that too! but i think girls dont take it as far as guys do! we do it to seem unavailable or smarter than a guy! but guys take it as far as they can until the girl gives up on him or just moves on! we all have our issues but when it comes to this i think guys have the most trouble with it!!!!
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Posted by Thu May 7, 2009 9:07pm PDT
Report AbuseYou know, both sides do the same thing. There are players, shy ones, bold ones, straight ones, and whatever...
I don't criticize. I like to read the articles about 'what to look for' or 'not look for' or 'how to catch his/her eye and keep it' articles, but I find them entertaining.
Back in high school, I actually thought it was all true. Read it and believed it. Now, I KNOW what I want from a relationship. And what lines I will bend and what lines I will NOT cross. And with that knowledge, some of the relationship stress faded.
But, then, I'm also not in that attitude that I HAVE to have someone with me to be happy. I can wait, not worry about games, spend time with my friends and family just having fun, and keep an eye out and have fun with the guys till I find something worthy of my risk. All without playing games. LOL!
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Posted by Wed May 13, 2009 9:40am PDT
Report Abuse"I didn't want to make this post but it's something that's been really irritating me lately. I've seen a large number of posts by women here talking about how they hate when guys play games with them"
Some women love those chaotic relationships. They say they don't want it but some do enjoy it more than they know.
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