Can't relax during sex!!!

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  Posted by SurferRob Fri Nov 20, 2009 2:26pm PST

  Yeah....slow down and enjoy the sex with your husband....focus on how much fun it is and explore each other. Then you'll probably want to do it more often and chances are it'll happen with increased frequency.

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  Posted by Tyra Fri Nov 20, 2009 8:11pm PST

  First of all, why are you putting your personal business about what you and your husband are doing in and trying in the bedroom? Concentrate on being with your husband. You just got married, enjoy being a wife before you become a mother. Concentrate on the positive and not the negatives. It will happen when it happens, if not then I suggest that you occupy your time in doing something constructive until you find out when you are pregnant.

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  Posted by isaac Sat Nov 21, 2009 2:13am PST

  I suggest you should not be panic about being pregnant. Children are blessing from God, no amount of money can buy it, and even if you eventually buy one you will never have that deep satisfaction since you are not the person that experience the physical pregnancy and delivery of the child. so just relax yourself because is not go to be as a result of your personal effort or your husband performance, you will just take in when it's God's time.

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  Posted by isaac Sat Nov 21, 2009 2:17am PST

  I suggest you should not be panic about being pregnant. Children are blessing from God, no amount of money can buy it, and even if you eventually buy one you will never have that deep satisfaction since you are not the person that experience the physical pregnancy and delivery of the child. so just relax yourself because is not go to be as a result of your personal effort or your husband performance, you will just take in when it's God's time.

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  Posted by Rebecca Sat Nov 21, 2009 10:42am PST

  Hello,

  My husband and I decided after being married for 3 months we wanted to have a baby. We tried and tried and was not successful. I was previously on birth control too. During sex, we both were focused on making a baby instead of enjoying the moment. Eventually, we gave up. December came and we were two months away from our 1st year anniversary. It was my birthday we were celebrating, relaxed and happy. Well, let's just say that did the trick because for our anniversary I surprised him with the news that we were expecting. So, my advice is to just not try so hard and if a big event coming up, focus on it instead of making a baby or either plan an event to relax and just let nature take its course.

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  Posted by L-MAMAZZ Sat Nov 21, 2009 12:35pm PST

  Thanks for the feedback, as for Tyra..people blog everyday about various problems and situations so why is mine any different. I asked for imput on a well known topic and just wanted an opinion. Its not about putting my business out for the world to see. Besides nobody knows who we are anyway lol. Get a grip.

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  Posted by springtime Sat Nov 21, 2009 1:34pm PST

  It will happen. Just enjoy your new husband and concentrate on the life you have now and the one before you. Enjoy doing things together because once the baby comes, your life will change in so many ways.

  I will advise you, if I may, that after one year of trying, both you and your husband should be tested. Your husband may have a low sperm count, but that doesn't mean you cannot get pregnant.

  Good luck!

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  Posted by cortney Sat Nov 21, 2009 6:25pm PST

  well the way i got knocked is when i just tried to have fun with my husband. we were just trying to have fun and to be more open around eachother, then I got knocked. Though you want a baby right now enjoy the sex because oonce he/she comes you wont have to much time to have your own time with eachother. dont be afraid to ask more questions or say whats on your mind it helps if he knows how you feel too then maybe their wont be that much pressure on you. also try taking that test that tells you when you can conceive the best

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  Posted by mrs jaye 4life Sun Nov 22, 2009 11:09am PST

  Stop trying to have a baby and just have mind blowing room rearranging room shaking sweat dripping sex. It will happen when you least expect it.

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  Posted by pwsgirl Mon Nov 23, 2009 11:01am PST

  My husband and I had difficulty conceiving our first child (I had to take fertility drugs to finally get there) but it was when we stopped focusing on making a baby and started focusing on each other that it happened. If you are stressed and uptight over whether or not you are going to conceive, it will not only take away the enjoyment, but it will take longer to happen. Also, if you go one year without conceiving, you should both be checked out by a doctor to make sure there are no physical issues. Good luck!

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