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  Posted by bbbwaldinger Wed Aug 6, 2008 12:56pm PDT

  I know what you mean i loved my ex with all my heart i was with her for 12 year's and then she just walked out on me and the kid's i'm just glad i have my kid's to keep me going i did try to date after she left but it just did not feel the same so broke it of after to day's and i'm still wating for my angle to show up some one that will make me happy thx brett

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  Posted by bbbwaldinger Wed Aug 6, 2008 12:57pm PDT

  I know what you mean i loved my ex with all my heart i was with her for 12 year's and then she just walked out on me and the kid's i'm just glad i have my kid's to keep me going i did try to date after she left but it just did not feel the same so broke it of after to day's and i'm still wating for my angle to show up some one that will make me happy thx brett

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  Posted by springtime Wed Aug 6, 2008 2:29pm PDT

  I am so very sorry... so very sorry. My heart goes out to you, and I wish I could help you in some way. I know you are in a bad situation, but marrying him will only make the situation worse. You will only be more miserable, and the marriage will not last. The last thing you need is more drama in your life. I hope you will rethink this because I think you will find a way. Have you called the social services in your area... like United Way or the Red Cross. They have programs to help with the disabled and the sick.

  Good luck. You are in my prayers. I will pray that you will not go to that Saturday service.

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  Posted by lilvixen07 Wed Aug 6, 2008 3:15pm PDT

  If you are this unhappy please get out. You will only resent this man you are marrying later. It's not fair to either of you. I know you love your mother but you should check on programs that help disabled individuals. And this other guy that your in love with is not worth your tears. If your heart is not in it please get out before you make a big mistake. You can get through this. Just take it one step at a time.

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  Posted by Sarah Y Wed Aug 6, 2008 3:18pm PDT

  Please don't marry him. I agree with springtime. There has to be another way... I know you feel hopeless, but I think both of these men are wrong for you. Marrying for financial reasons will probably make you more depressed. The guy who cheated on you is not worth being the love of your life. You deserve better. You should wait for the man that will never hurt you like that - someone you can love with your whole heart.

  My friend went through a marriage with someone she was unsure of... 18 months later, they got a divorce. The divorce ended up costing her money, emotions, and some of her sanity. Please don't do it! It's not too late to call it off. I think you wrote this blog, because deep down you know that you will regret this marriage.

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  Posted by BeachLvr Wed Aug 6, 2008 3:47pm PDT

  100% agree with Springtime. You have to got to find a better way to deal with the finances than involving another person you will only hurt down the line. Wedding Sat. is a very, very bad idea. Please do not go through with this for everyone's sake. You will make it somehow, someway. You sound completely depressed and MUST be a superb actress for your "fiance" not to notice you are not truly happy...Please seek advice from a professional BEFORE SAT!

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  Posted by Jessica Wed Aug 6, 2008 3:54pm PDT

  DO NOT GET MARRIED!!!

  You are hurting yourself and your fiance by entering into a marriage with someone that you do not love.

  The fact that you are even considering staying with a man you don't love makes me so sad! You will only regret this marriage after you get some help for depression and start seeing things more clearly. You both deserve so much better.

  Put yourself in his shoes; your former fiance broke your heart but at least he didn't stay with someone he didn't want to be with. If you found out a year down the line that your fiance no longer loved you after buying a house together you would have been horrified and miserable. Imagine marrying someone then finding out later that they didn't think you were the one.

  DO NOT GET MARRIED!

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  Posted by RC Wed Aug 6, 2008 4:00pm PDT

  I too am soo very sorry to hear what you are going thru. You did not give your age, but you need to know that you do not have to go thru with this. If you are patient God will send you the right man that God has picked especilly for you. If you feel this way about this man he obviously is not the one. Be patient my dear and wait.

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  Posted by BRIAN Wed Aug 6, 2008 4:00pm PDT

  I wasn just checking email and somehow came to this website. it is quite cool to clear the air and tell the world about what it is that is exactly wrong. I once drank and destroyed my entire life and another in the process. well actually quite a few. we affect close to 100 people. back to your situation. marrying this person will be temporary i think, most of all a lie, and I dislike being honest but being what I was in my last relationship I actually learned from it. I can only suggest and say that if you and K. T. were both in love then this would not have happened. If you look at similarities and differences between you two maybe thats a place to look. I never really knew my first girlfriend who has my daughter, but I thought I loved her. turns out she has reserved anger inside and I can't help but be the problem to her. Ask yourself the right questions. My suggestion read up on relationships, I had to to stop looking for the wrong women. then re-examine you and k.t. it may turn out that possibly he may have just wanted something else out of life, and that he could not tell anybody. I try to tell myself it is a two way street but have trouble accepting it, but I laugh and continue with my day.

  if you do'nt get anything out of this at least you will be more educated and nobody can take that away. i feel that my opinion is people refuse to see the world and vere away from truth. I did. and choose to ignore alot about their own lives. i guess life is progress. but sometimes certain things happen for a reason. I have found that I pray to a higher power and let the big things go and pray for answers. works better with a little faith but I am not suggesting it ultimatley your choice. I would also suggest finding hobby or if you have favorite then ask yourself are you doing this hobby? mine is golf so when I don't play often then i get cranky. but if I think of anything else i'll let you know

  hope you are happier with all this love from everybody

  later

  brian

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  Posted by almostfamousav Wed Aug 6, 2008 4:08pm PDT

  Don't marry someone you don't love. That is wrong. And cruel. How would you feel if the tables were turned??

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