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Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Confession: I’m Single But I’d Like a Married Person’s Curfew, Please.

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My dad says these sunglasses are unattractive. Oh, well! Sofia was a cop and Beth was an eye chart!

Saturday night, I went to a Halloween party hosted by Petra and Kim (a.k.a. Little Miss Fortune). Beth was in attendance and so was Ryan! I can’t believe I forgot to get a photo with him. Well, Ryan was wearing a sleeveless tee and spandex shorts—I'm sure you can imagine it.








Sofia also came. She brought her fiancee Alex as well as her friend from Italy; we’ll call him D. He was funny, smart, tall, cute, and Italian. Best of all, he was not wearing a costume (my kind of guy). I was dressed as a Pink Lady. I don’t think he knew what a Pink Lady was.

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Petra and Kim stayed in character for every photo.

After a few drinks and some serious dancing, Sofia, Alex, D and I left because I had two other parties to go to. But there were no cabs and the F train wasn’t running, so we gave up on the parties and started walking. In Soho, we stopped at a bar so I could go to the bathroom. After a bit, Sofia and Alex went home. I could have gone home too, but D said it was too early and I stayed with him.

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I bought a round of drinks because D’s Italian credit cards weren’t working, and when I ran out of cash, I put down my card. The minimum was so high, though, that I ended up drinking way more than I wanted and still having to give out free drinks to people. D and I were getting pretty cozy by then and of course we started kissing. He was, um, quite the passionate Italian.

Eventually, we left and strolled to the 6 train, but that station was closed as well, so we kept walking. I had to go to the bathroom again, so we went into another bar. When I came out, it was weird. D and I stood next to each other for some time. He was looking off toward some door, like he was expecting someone. Finally, I said, “Well, I’m going to go home now.” He nodded. So, I left. I felt kinda jilted and I also wondered if I’d been taken for some free drinks.

The next 3 subway stops were closed, and there were so many people on the street, it was impossible to get a cab. My phone rang. D had gotten my number from Sofia. He wanted to know where I was. I guess he hadn't understood that I was leaving. But by this point, I had already walked a mile. I'd finally reached a subway station that was open, and I really had to go to the bathroom AGAIN. I just wanted to get home. I was so Odysseus.

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I waited on the subway platform for centuries. The train was packed with crazies. It took about 40 minutes to go 3 miles. My feet and back hurt, and I had to pee so bad I could cry. It was 4 a.m. I’m telling you, I felt so done with everything—NYC, crowds, mass transit, Halloween, costumes, and men.

But today my friend Caroline, who has a baby, reminded me that she wouldn’t mind going to a party now and then, and that the grass is always greener. Touche! Or should I say…hai ragione?

How was your Halloween? Did you stay out too late like me? Do you ever feel like you’re just “over” the whole scene and you’re dying to go home?

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  • MeghanR's Avatar
    Posted by MeghanR Mon Nov 2, 2009 1:05pm PST

    Not quite the same situation, but close. Before my fiancee (then boyfriend) moved in together we used to party all the time. Now we don't have the disposable income needed to stay out, go to bars etc. Plus there is the issue of things needing to be done the next day: groceries, cooking, laundry, cleaning...which make it less appealing to stay out all night. Now when I do go out, on the rare occasion that I do, I am ready to go home by 11. What happened?? I guess I just enjoy life more when I am well rested and not hungover and haven't drank all of my money.

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  • None's Avatar
    Posted by None Mon Nov 2, 2009 1:29pm PST

    Erin, you maxed your cc from drinks, girl get to AAA, I am vouching for you!!! You can do it! LOL!

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  • Jamie's Avatar
    Posted by Jamie Mon Nov 2, 2009 1:34pm PST

    i am single to it suck i want someone

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  • swphome's Avatar
    Posted by swphome Mon Nov 2, 2009 1:36pm PST

    I'm really wondering why we never see any men in her pictures.

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  • Cherie's Avatar
    Posted by Cherie Mon Nov 2, 2009 1:45pm PST

    Oh, I was in SoHo too fighting the crowds and packed bars! It seemed like every subway I wanted to take wasn't running either. But at 3 a.m., I called it quits and took a 30 dollar cab ride back to Brooklyn! But, some of the costumes I did see in Manhattan made it all worth while... like a HUGE "Where the Wild Things Are" costume that took up the whole sidewalk! Loved it!

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  • Britt's Avatar
    Posted by Britt Mon Nov 2, 2009 2:46pm PST

    We took our 20 month son trick-or-treating to a friend's house at 7pm. I admit, when I saw everyone else just STARTING their night, all dressed up, I was a little envious. Long gone are the days when we can just go out and run up a huge bill on drinks...especially since I'm 6 months pregnant with out second!

    But after hearing some of the horror stories at work this morning, I realized just how LITTLE I miss all of that. It was so much more enjoyable spending time with family, seeing our son look absolutely adorable in his dinosaur costume, and being in bed at a reasonable hour. I also DON'T miss waking up hungover and wasting the next day just trying to feel reasonably alive.

    Still, if you're single, it IS possible to strike a balance between being a fuddy duddy who is home by 9pm, and the all-night-partyer who can't stumble home until 4 or 5 the next morning. It's just much more difficult once you're drunk. *smile*

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  • opiniononly's Avatar
    Posted by opiniononly Mon Nov 2, 2009 3:41pm PST

    More pathetic noise that basically says you still drink too much, have no impulse control over your finances and no self-respect.

    Erin...seriously girl...stop whining about all the externals you are so continually (and repetitively) sick of and take control of you own life. Stop with all the drinking and drinking related acts of poor judgment and enough already with the various men you invite into your drama. You write enough to leave the impression that you are a booty call without needing a phone call...cuz you are always somewhere for someone to hook up with...and who always leaves you writing like you been victimized, when you are doing it to yourself.

    Get some help Erin...your articles are cries for help that you don't listen to.

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  • Mysterious Gryphon's Avatar
    Posted by Mysterious Gryphon Mon Nov 2, 2009 3:43pm PST

    I'm engaged and I miss having a single girl's schedule.

    Okay, really I miss having a single girl's stamina. Or maybe just the stamina and disposable cash I had when I was in college.

    Now that I work for a living, have to get up in the morning to go to that job, and come home to my beloved (ie, am no longer trolling the bar scene for the next dude to make out with), things just aren't the same. Also, after I gained a few years of age, lost a few (read: 50) pounds of college weight, and got out of the habit, I simply cannot drink the way I used to.

    Sometimes I really long for the days of partying till dawn. Alas, the grass is alwasy greener on the other side of the fence ...

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  • Amircle's Avatar
    Posted by Amircle Mon Nov 2, 2009 4:04pm PST

    Hell yeah!!!I hate being over my limit and a m-----

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  • kim L's Avatar
    Posted by kim L Mon Nov 2, 2009 5:15pm PST

    I used to be quite the party animal, and now am soo over it.

    I haven't been out in a really long time. I'd rather stay home and watch a movie or read a good book. Just the very thought of dressing up, going out in the cold, fake conversation and so on leaves me exhausted!!!

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