Confessions of a Married Woman: What I’m Missing

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  Posted by Carey Tue Sep 15, 2009 9:19pm PDT

  Wow,your not missing out, on dating but maybe what you have. It may seem like the single life is fun, and carefree, but it's a big media lie, The single life is a fairy tale, the movies aren't real. Think of those that spend their whole life hoping to find someone. Those that look in peoples windows on the holidays and think they'll will never know what it's like to have someone really love them. Crying, hoping and praying for hours into their pillow that they'll meet someone someday, maybe. People that search their whole lives for what you have. The grass is never greener. Ask the real single people, they will tell you it sucks! Date after date with losers, hoping someday you'll meet "the one". Countless blind dates, never connecting, being stood up, not called, dumped, and the list goes on. I hope your not one that doesn't realize what she has til it's too late, you know what they say, you don't know what you got til it's gone.

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  Posted by surajit Tue Sep 15, 2009 10:48pm PDT

  my lover is my life partner

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  Posted by Somi.H Tue Sep 15, 2009 11:34pm PDT

  Conclusion: No matter how blessed we are, we still have to complain. You have it or you don't, It really doesn't matter in this article.

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  Posted by sassychic Tue Sep 15, 2009 11:37pm PDT

  maybe your marriage hasn't been exciting in a long time. I think your missing out on just having fun even with your husband. I do won't to say your bored but I think you are. Please do not drift off and leave your husband for a one night rollercoaster its not worth it. Unless its that bad...Then get a divorced instead of committing adultery.

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  Posted by MaPpLe Wed Sep 16, 2009 12:42am PDT

  I believed in you when you said that you are happily married. May be you are just looking for some fun and excitement because right now you are being too familiar on what you have... Remember that when you are in your younger age you also have you own adventure that might being envy by those who are older than you...

  Sometimes I feel the same... the what if idea...the thrill

  But my husband and I make an effort for us to feel the excitement and thrill on something...

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  Posted by Akima Wed Sep 16, 2009 1:49am PDT

  I had been with my man for more than decade. We had dated for many years, married for many years. The exciting dates that I always been looking forward to had become a boring marriage life. It’s always about work, kids and a routine life. I am nowhere near Cougar age too.

  Now, i do not feel that our love is as sweet as before, all the excitement, touchy & flirty hugs ,Intimacy are getting lesser. Fun & naughty suggestions from that man is as rare as dinosaurs when there is no sparks, and marriage life became a drag... Quarrels are becoming our “activities”. It’s sad to say, we were once so passionate lovers but now we are becoming more like normal friends. Those wonderful feelings I had during our early years seems to be fading.At times I do feel like giving up……………

  Anyway, I believe both parties should make an effort in maintaining a healthy relationship. Good Luck.

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  Posted by Teena Wed Sep 16, 2009 3:29am PDT

  I completely sympathize with the premise of your "regrets." I feel that too, sometimes. And while it may be true that me and my husband may have been completely overwhelmed by more pressing family matters and may just need to take some "time off" more often, time just passes by so fast that you end up in place where you begin to realize those regrets.

  I remember when I was still out there, the competition was, and may still be, ruthless, but the prize was finding "the" guy whom you will spend the rest of your life with, WHICH IS WHERE I AM NOW!! So yes, maybe it's right to say that no one can ever be THAT satisfied and may always have an excuse to "complain". But on the brighter side, at the end of the day, I find my "reality" again at my bedside, and in the other bedrooms and say to myself, there's a lot more to look forward to than when I look back.

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  Posted by itslilolme Wed Sep 16, 2009 3:53am PDT

  Wow! Husband and I are working on a decade, and we dated forever before that. I can't imagine how this writer feels. I look at our single friends and pray that they find something like we have. It's just sooo wonderful to have someone that you can communicate with using just a glance or an eyebrow twitch. A phrase that means nothing to anyone else who hears it can mean anything to us from "I'm sooo bored, when will

  this end?" to "When we get alone, those clothes are coming off - STAT!"

  Speaking of clothes coming off, there seems to be no end to, "Hey! Wanna try _____(fill in the blank here)?" And as for that falling in love feeling, we still get that sometimes, too. Neither of us is perfect- not by a long shot - but when we've been getting on each other's nerves because of a fault one of us has, and finally that person owns up to and starts trying to fix that fault, yeah, you start to get that butterflies in the stomach feeling again. Because you know that's a big expression of love, not just a I-wanna-get-in-your-pants sort of thing. After all, now you're married, you can get in each others pants anytime you please. PLUS - you know just what pleases the other best!

  Marriage is TONS of work, but so worth it. The payoffs of a great marriage are unbelieveable! Sure we've had plenty of disagreements, sometimes very loud ones, but we fight with a goal in mind to improve ourselves and eah other, not just to get our own way.

  I used to be able to make the hottest guy in the room cross the floor and come to me with just a look. Now, my husband appreciates that look is reserved for him. I used to be the charming, witty, ingenue. Now, I'm part of a team that knows just how to work almost any situation. I used to be the bright, pretty little thing that had so much potential. Now, I'm the woman who seems to have it all.

  Which I do.

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  Posted by pwsgirl Wed Sep 16, 2009 5:09am PDT

  I understand that sometimes you miss that giddy, falling-in-love, early stage romance feeling, but I personally prefer the familiar, secure, always-there-when-I-need-him, loves me for who I am, relationship my husband and I share. I don't have to impress him, worry about him leaving if I say the wrong thing, or lament about whether or not I impressed him enough for a second date. I have a few friends who are single and I actually feel a bit sorry for them. In reality, most single people are simply searching for what I've already found. Sure, it's not all movie-star romance 24/7, but it's something I wouldn't trade for anything.

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  Posted by None Wed Sep 16, 2009 5:19am PDT

  Are you kidding me? People are NEVER happy with what they got, seriously, all of the single people's goals is to find a man, then when you do, then what? That's why I take whatever comes, comes, I don't get desperate or act stupid, honestly, I find sometimes the fantasy more fulfilling then the real thing, cuz then when I get a man, then I will realize how annoying he is LOL!

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