Before I get into the confusion, Let me explain the situation.
I went to study abroad this past semester, and had the time of my
life! Towards the end, I met ... lets call him Mikey. We were
exclusively seeing eachother for a bit over a month. It didnt start
off as something serious, it was just something fun and exciting. I
had no idea that I would start having real feelings for him.
Towards the end of the month, I decided (having nothing to do with
him) that I loved the country so much, I wanted to come back and
finish off my education there. I guess because of my
decision, we both started realizing that there was potential for
more in our relationship, rather than just a fun fling. He
went on vacation for a week, and while he was away, I found out
some terrible news back home, and decided to return to the states
for the rest of the summer with my family, especially because I was
planning on returning abroad.
Now here is where Ive gotten a little confused. I speak to him, Id
say, frequently. But definately not as much as Id like to. The
thing is that we left our relationship up in the air. Even though
we were exclusively seeing eachother, we were still only having fun
at point where I left. Both of us started admitting to liking
eachother more than just a fling, but it was just the
beginning. I know I like him, but I also know that when I
return, I want a relationship, but at the same time, I dont want to
rush into anything. Also, the whole problem with our
relationship is the damn timing! I left at such a bad time, and
now, Im returning right as hes leaving the country for a month. And
after his return, he will be drafted into the army. none of that
matters to me all that much, because I do like him a lot. and I
miss HIM a lot. not just the sex, or the intense physical chemistry
we had. I miss HIM. Im confused because, like any girl out
there, I wish to get back, and see him and him profess his desire
to be with me, and only me and blah blah blah. But Im also
realistic, and even though that would be wonderful, I know that
wont happen. Hes way to freedom-loving. (saggitarius, you
know.-while I am a virgo. what a pair!) And also, even though deep
down I want that, Im still not sure if I really do. Distance makes
the heart grow fonder for sure, but time also puts a damper on
things. Im just all confused. Please, any opinions are welcomed!
Confused and in need of opinions!!!!!
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Posted by Thu Aug 13, 2009 2:41pm PDT
Report AbuseWell to me it sounds like the two of you need to have a convo about his here "relationship" if the both of you really like each other and want to be in a committed relationship then im sure you can make it work...like you said its really bad timing...your busy with your stuff and he's busy with his stuff...but people make time for the things they want to make time for and if you guys feel that strongly about one another than im sure you will make time for each other...just keep that door open....it sounds like you really like him...and im sure he really likes you too if he's still hangin around....i wish you the best of lucka and i hope you get some clarity!!!
Good luck:)
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Posted by Thu Aug 13, 2009 5:04pm PDT
Report AbuseNot sure where you're confused or what you're confused about. When you get back, he'll be gone for a month. Then he's going into the army. If he's in the army, depending on how long the basic training is, you may not see him for 6 months to a year. Then if he gets sent abroad, you still won't see him. So, since you're not looking to jump into anything right away, looks like you won't. So...it all depends on the whole army thing and how long you are going to wait around. I'd say go about your business with school and enjoy him for as long as he's around. That way you're not serious right away, because you don't really have a choice, and you still get to be there. Sounds easy to me.
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Posted by Fri Aug 14, 2009 7:05am PDT
Report AbuseDear Confused,
I can understand your predicament! I firmly believe that timing is a key factor with all relationships. And boy oh boy this is like one of those movies where the timing never works until the ending.
What I am trying to say is stop over thinking things. If this relationship is meant to be it will work it self out on its own. Stay close, close friends, but he is going away and if after a month when he comes back your feelings are still there; then get on with it and see if you can rekindle that fire.
The best part of a relationship is the getting to know you part... and the longer it takes the better. Show him you are interested, and talk to him about how you feel. If you have open communication then you wont feel so confused. He may feel the same way, but I don't recommended starting a relationship when long distance in involved. This can put extra strain in the beginning and injure the relationship, appose to wait and then pick things up where you left off.
Best Of Luck!
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Posted by Fri Aug 14, 2009 8:21am PDT
Report AbuseWell... it's sorta like a cinderella story... since he gets back from his month trip then leaves... surely not right away. you have a small chance to talk to him and seek out the kinks... and while he is gone in the army right him letters.. love letters. to let him know even though he is gone and you are in the world alone you are still being faithfull to him. because it sounds like you have such a good relationship it looks like there will be no problems at all. always remember; God will never give you more than you can handle. best of luck with you Mikey person :]
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Posted by Fri Aug 14, 2009 8:52am PDT
Report AbusePlain and simple... You like him, a lot. You don't love. When he decides to go off into the army field, the like will become a lot less. There are other fish in the sea on your side, just as well as his side. He just might bump into another interesting girl in the army and you the same, with a guy. Don't miss out on important things in life just because of LIKE. I know its hard but the feeling will go away sonn if you just focus on you.
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Posted by Sat Aug 15, 2009 2:05am PDT
Report AbuseOMG I KNO EXACTLY HOW YOU'RE FEELING!!!
About 2 years ago i fell for this guy who was in the same summer camp as me and we hit it off from beginning to end and last minute he decided he wanted tell me that he actually lives in Atlanta Georgia and was only visiting were I live for the summer and that he was leaving in 2 days. I was so shocked, even though we hadn't hooked up everyone thought we were going to be the couple of the summer but it ended up so messy. Before he left we both told each other exactly how we felt but it didn't hmake such a difference because I told him I wasnt down for long distance relationships and we never talked after I told him that...he was hurt but it was all for the good...But if someone asked me today, Would i ever try to work it out with him...Helll YES! He was fine!!
GIVE IT UP FOR THE VIRGOS!!!!
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Posted by Sat Aug 15, 2009 2:08am PDT
Report Abuseyur situation is really tuf bt at the same time you write so passionately about him.... but in reality it seems like u actually love him but your heart want let u fully love him like ur supose to... an its a reason for that i think its because ur scared to be committed but i could be rong but anyway i think that if u get the chance to tell hi how u feel then u really shud because chances only come around like dat every once in a wile
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Posted by Sun Sep 13, 2009 1:48pm PDT
Report AbusefOCUS..........
thats all you need & should do. both of you sound young and on a journey to better your livlihood. FOCUS
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