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Monday, December 7, 2009

Cougar Town on ABC Tonight! Would You Date A Younger Man?

According to a Newsweek cover story back in June, 2009 is the year of the Cougar.  Perfect timing for ABC to premier Cougar Town , Courtney Cox’s new vehicle about a recently divorced, single mother and realtor dating and aging “in a beauty and youth obsessed culture”.

 

“Women who are with it date the young guy and then the old fossils date the older guys who are going to die on them,” says Author Rich Gosse and president of the Society of Single Professionals.  The Society hosted the first Annual Cougar Convention in August and crowed 42-year-old Gloria Navarro, Miss Cougar America.

 

For those of you not in the know, a cougar is a women in her late 30s or 40s who dates younger men.  Women like, Demi, Mariah, Susan and Halle get most of the press these days and according to Gosse, it’s not surprising.

 

“Supposedly every American male is only attracted to nubile 20 year olds found in the centerfolds of men’s magazines. The truth is that there are millions of American men who find older women attractive,” says Gosse who is organizing a Cougar Cruise with Carnival for December.

 

As a single woman, you either love the word cougar, or hate it.  You might think it’s too predatory or it bugs you that there is no equal term for the men who have been “robbing the cradle” for decades.  Player connotes something completely different and there isn’t a female equivalent for that.  Maybe it’s cougar?

 

Personally, the word Cougar doesn’t bother me.  I think attraction and love transcend boundaries of all kinds, including age.  (And in most cases, the people who use cougar as a pejorative are threatened by women not afraid to do what society expects them to.) It’s the word cub that pushes me over the edge. 

 

According to Gosse, cub is the term for the younger man.  Supposedly it’s a movement away from bait or prey.  When I think cub, I think son, child, offspring...

 

Ew.
 

Cougar Town airs tonight at 9:30/8:30c on ABC.

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  • A_YAHOO_USER's Avatar
    Posted by A_YAHOO_USER Wed Sep 23, 2009 12:46pm PDT

    If everybody's supposed to be perfectly cool with older women dating younger men (which, personally, my attitude is, "Sure, whatever...I never had a 'problem' with it to begin with"), does that mean it's now OK for me to be dating much younger women?

    I hope so....it'd be nice not to be belittled, ridiculed, or called a pervert just for being attracted to a younger woman.

    Fair's fair, right?

    Probably not, though.....men will probably still be considered perverts and treated as though they deserve to be social outcasts.

    Equality's lovely, ain't it?

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  • Miss's Avatar
    Posted by Miss Wed Sep 23, 2009 12:53pm PDT

    Interesting. I'll have to TiVo this. http://www.computersncs.com/rd_p?p=186122&t=9526&a=3943-shine&gift=21283

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  • Kim Kuhteubl, www.Single-Woman.TV's Avatar
    Posted by Kim Kuhteubl, www.Single-Woman.TV Wed Sep 23, 2009 7:33pm PDT

    It depends on what you mean by MUCH younger Zom-B. Not legally an adult, no! Otherwise it's your perogative. Of course like the Cougar...you might be judged...

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  • 88Gypsy's Avatar
    Posted by 88Gypsy Thu Sep 24, 2009 9:18am PDT

    OH Zom-B ... men have been dating and marrying girls young enough to be their children for generations! Up until the 19th century the NORM was men in their 30's and over being foisted upon 13-14 year old girls.

    YOU have never been the social pariahs. - but let an older woman date younger? And we get called a man-eating big cat. Go fig.

    I date younger because men my age overall don't want to do much other than golf, watch sports on TV and scratch. I'm super active and need someone who can keep up.

    Plus I work really hard to stay in athletic shape and appreciate a man who is in good shape as well (and no, Sumo wrestler does not count as an athletic physique).

    Besides let's face it - we out-live you guys anyway. This just evens things out. This 'trend' is getting a lot of attention now - but it's really not a big deal ..and I'm sure the focus will shift onto the next trend before long...

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