Are
you someone who finds herself consistently attracted to the type of
guy who keeps saying “I am not ready to settle
down? Could it be true that you always end up
with the guy who does not or is not, willing to commit to anyone
not even a babe like you? Are you finding
yourself falling for yet another commitment shy type like John
Mayer
time after time? Are you a girl who has found
that you have been in relationships where the individual you
fancied, was as unpredictable as the weather?
One minute the guy could not get enough of you and then suddenly
could not even remember to pick you up after work like he
promised? Does he like to text you instead of
call whenever he is not coming over after all or the two of you get
in an argument over plans for the future? Then
maybe you are “hooked” on a man like Mayer, one who
seems ready to run out the door the minute you hint at anything
even remotely related to a serious commitment.
For instance, you may ask “What do you think about
celebrating New Year’s Eve in Shanghai?”
Suddenly your guy becomes annoyingly evasive, shuts down completely
or immediately has to leave for a meeting he conveniently forgot
about, with a client. Well lady looks like you
are the latest winner in the commitment challenged
sweepstakes. This guy is totally not ready for
anything more distant than tomorrow’s dinner plans and for
the most fearful, even that is too far off.
Undeniably these guys can be ever so charming, affectionate and
thoughtful in the beginning throes of the relationship and have the
girls they are showering with their unwavering attention completely
smitten but as time progresses, they gradually become less
interested. These commitment shy types typically
come on like an inferno yet fizzle out as fast as a skillet fire
after being hit with a blast from the
extinguisher. When it seems that things are
about to become truly serious, these types withdraw like a turtle
taking refuge in his shell. Leaving the women
who were so “hooked” on their amorous attentions, like
a deer caught in the headlights wondering what happened and what it
is they did wrong to cause the sudden change of
attitude. The women are not to blame for the
truth of the matter is that when guys like this realize that the
girls they are involved with, have become serious and are now
starting to talk about things a lot more involved than plans for
the weekend, they suddenly feel stifled, which leads to their
immediate need to bail. Men like this can be
intoxicating for they are completely attractive in every way but
the worst mistake women can make when dealing with these commitment
wary types, is to bring up anything that relates to future plans
like procreation, wedding plans and well, you get the
picture. These guys are difficult if not
impossible to pin down and when you think about it,
Hollywood
has
always been home to many of these types who simply like living the
bachelor life. The worst thing any woman
involved with them can do is to try and convince them otherwise,
before it is his idea. The truth is, when a man
is ready and willing to commit to a woman, he will usually bring up
the topic and if that truly debonair dude you have been seeing for
over six months has not made even a remote mention of anything more
serious than dinner with the folks for the holidays, then he is so
not ready to hear your conversations relating to anything more
serious. If you truly need a commitment from the
man you choose to exclusively date and more than the uncertainness
which is truly all this type can comfortably offer, you may need to
go elsewhere. The world is honest to God, chock
full of men who are seriously ready to commit to marriage, the kids
and the picket fence, but the truth is guys who do not want a
serious entanglement right now and possible never could not be less
interested and you are not going to be the one to convince
them. Sure, you can try but just do not be
surprised when the calls become less frequent and he stops coming
by altogether, because Mister Commitment Shy has decided to move on
to some other girl who knows how to keep it
casual. Cause let’s face it, this guy may
know everything about how to show you a really good time but come
on, the last thing he is definitely looking to do, is
get serious.
Could I Be Dating a John Mayer Type?: Loving the Commitment Shy
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Posted by Mon Dec 29, 2008 8:13pm PST
Report Abuseexellent topic. yes i feel ur suggestions, they are vey helpful for what im going thru right now.
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