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Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Creative Ways To Show Your Girlfriend That You Love Her

Romance is a dying art in desperate need of resuscitation. There once existed an orchestrated interaction before intimacy, leading to sincere emotional involvement. Couples now multi-task during dates, completely eliminating essential elements in the process of falling in love.

The current generation of young men spend more time emulating music video artists than in developing the communication and physical interaction skills necessary to sustain a relationship with a woman. Women today, just as they have for hundreds of years, would still rather know that a man has a stronger bond with her than with his "boys". They still appreciate flowers, movies, walks on the beach, beautiful sunsets, and quiet dinners. Women still enjoy holding hands, soft music, and being spoken to, not talked at. And they still look forward to being surprised by small gifts at times other than just birthdays and holidays.

Yes, romance is quietly fading away. But, as a man who still opens doors for women, enjoys preparing special meals, and calling a woman by her name instead of references to a dog, a part of me has hope that there are women who still appreciate a gentleman.

With that being said, there is something that I must confess. It must be known that in no manner imaginable can I be mistaken for an expert on "love". But I have found that there are creative ways to express your emotions, and let a woman know how much you love her. Sometimes, it's as simple as just spending time with her. But at other times, it's a matter of engaging in her interests. That is doing some of the things that guys don't normally do.

Cooking Classes
If she is the one that does most of the cooking, she'll certainly appreciate sharing the responsibility. One of the best ways to show her that you are sincere, is to invite her to take a cooking class with you. This actually has a dual benefit; First, you'll participate in something different together and improve your skills in the kitchen. Second, it allows you both to spend quality time together.

Ballroom Dancing
With the recent success of dance programs on television, ballroom dancing has slowly become the new fad. Surprise your girlfriend with a certificate for dance classes, then surprise her even more by joining her. Once again, this is a great opportunity to share time with one another, and also benefit from the exercise.

Walks Together
My favorite is a walk on the beach, but the park will also do. The objective is just to spend time and communicate. Communication is another fading art form, so every chance to improve in that area strengthens the relationship. Map a route that allows you to stop to buy her an ice cream cone and a rose. It's a small gesture, but she'll appreciate it.

Of course, the spontaneous gift of flowers and the impromptu night out still carries a lot of weight. Small gifts are always welcome, and let her know that you were thinking of her while not in her presence. The phone call during the middle of the day, just to say "I love you" is another great way to show you care.

I am not a Casanova, player, nor as the sultry Sade' would croon, a smooth operator. I'm not the guy that other guys would envy, with the beautiful model sitting next to me in a Ferrari Testarossa, her hair blowing gently in the breeze as I talked on the latest wireless gadget. And I'm not the guy that has to come up with excuses about why I can't take my woman out, because my boy has me hooked up with some "hottie".

I'm simply a guy that still believes that a lady should be treated as a lady. I believe that women still likes to be shown attention, and that they enjoy being touched, held, and kissed under the moonlight. I've learned through experience what creates smiles which beam with affection and appreciation, and I've learned which experiences send me to the dog house. Most importantly, I've learned that the best way to show someone that you love them, is just simply to show them love. I may sound somewhat nostalgic, but I still believe in romance.

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  • SolsticeAngel's Avatar
    Posted by SolsticeAngel Thu Jul 24, 2008 10:17am PDT

    I still believe in it too, and I think you know that there are women out there whp appreciate a gentle man! I know I do, and when I find someone I want to make sure he reads your posts! They are always so great!

    My question is why have some men changed and women haven't? (I kind of have my own thoughts on this, but would like a gentleman's point of veiw)

    You are spot on with your advise and I'm sure strawberry is so happy that you have learned from previous mistakes! :) You guys are Great!

    Good luck and keep writing!

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  • DimplesDee's Avatar
    Posted by DimplesDee Thu Jul 24, 2008 10:51am PDT

    I agree with angel. I to still believe in romace and it is so hard these days to find a man that still does. I am so glad that you started your blogs. I enjoy them greatly and reading them gives me hope that there are still men out there that still believe in true love and romance. Thanks and any blessings

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  • MochaMama42's Avatar
    Posted by MochaMama42 Thu Jul 24, 2008 12:28pm PDT

    You are absolutely correct. In the end, it's all about ATTENTION.

    Women LOVE attention.

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  • browntina19's Avatar
    Posted by browntina19 Thu Jul 24, 2008 12:35pm PDT

    hea happy late birthday did have enough time to read have fun talk to later.

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  • Suzanne's Avatar
    Posted by Suzanne Thu Jul 24, 2008 1:12pm PDT

    Excellent! Now could you write a post about what will send a man to the dog house, as you mentioned? Specifically if it's things that many guys think are okay, but aren't (thus leaving out the very obvious things, like cheating). I have a few ideas of my own, but I'd like to hear yours...

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  • cigarette-girl's Avatar
    Posted by cigarette-girl Sat Jul 26, 2008 6:24pm PDT

    I like this post. I do believe that romance is starting to die out. It's hard finding anyone who will go the extra mile. Or maybe I've just been meeting the wrong people.

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  • Misanthropic Romantic's Avatar
    Posted by Misanthropic Romantic Sun Jul 27, 2008 5:29pm PDT

    you know what terry, usually I agree with most of your posts but somehow I think that we have way too many preconceived notions of what romance is. Angel asks why have some men changed and women haven't? Who says men have changed? According to my mother and grandmother, not all men used to open doors and take you on romantic walks on the beach etc etc even back in the day! So if they don't do it now then what makes you think they've changed? But then, who defined those things as romance? Does anyone know who first gave us the definition of romance?

    I think romance is what you make it. If my man chooses to do the dishes tonight when it's my turn, to me that's romance. Him understanding that sometimes I don't need all his attention ALL the time is romantic to me. When he's worked the night shift and comes home at the time that i'm leaving for my job and he still makes me a cup of tea and walks me out to the car, to me that's romantic. But like I said, romance is what you make of it, and to each his own :)

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