Love + Sex
Monday, December 14, 2009
Cuddle parties: Cute or creepy?
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A friend emailed me the other day regarding a love and relationship trend she'd recently noticed. Blame it on the STD epidemic, but it seems that non-sexual slumber parties are beginning to replace that other intimate form of getting a little affection, the f*$k buddy.
I wasn't quite sure about this until I came across the following video, which chronicles a "Cuddle Party," which is what some people are calling these little get togethers that encourage spooning, massaging and snuggling in a "safe" environment. (PJs and stuffed animals are strongly encouraged.) Is there something wrong with me that I find all this rampant hugging and touching vaguely creepy? And um, triply so after watching this:
What do you think? Would you consider going to a "Cuddle Party?" Cute or creepalicious?
Related: snuggling, sleepover friends, non-sexual touching, hugging, cuddle parties
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Posted by Lauralisa Tue Apr 29, 2008 7:37am PDT
I believe in Sex & Love as well ..... just don't think I need anyone besides "MY MAN" to cuddle w/ me.
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Posted by Natalia Tue Apr 29, 2008 9:10am PDT
HMMMM I am gonna have to go with creepalicious...
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Posted by fools_and_sages Tue Apr 29, 2008 9:18am PDT
I think the cuddle party is a brilliant concept. It is appealing because it promotes expressing affection without sex. It's not creepy at all-- except for the cuddling strangers part. I'm not too fond of that idea.
In all honesty, I have never understood why MOST people confuse love, sex, and affection. Most people don't get that you can love a person without wanting to have sex with them. Most also do not understand that you can feel affection for somebody without being "in love" with them or wanting to "make love" to them. This is because most people equate sex and love when, in reality, sex is a biological function that is mostly an instinct, which most people derive some physical pleasure from.
Some people don't get any pleasure from sex and don't want kids-- so sex is pointless. They may have tried everything remotely appealing and tried it with both men and women and still find nothing about it they enjoy. And these non-sexual people were never molested or sexually assaulted or anything like that. They just don't like sex.
However, because so many people can't separate the ideas of love, affection, and sex, non-sexuals won't ever have any sort of emotionally meaningful relationship-- simply because they are not interested in sex and don't like it. It also means that they can't express affection for anybody without that person (or other people) assuming they have a crush and want it to turn into something more.
In the end, non-sexuals are left more or less alone and feeling unloved and unloveable because there is no affection in their world. Everybody else they know is paired up and it's even hard for them to spend time around couples. For a non-sexual, it's hard seeing people in love becasue the non-sexual could love somebody if they could avoid sex but they also know that's never going to happen because it seems like sex = love for everybody but them.
The cuddle party seems like an innocent way to inject some affection into the lives of people who need it but don't want/like/need sex. I'm sure some people meet and "fall in love" and become sexually involved through the cuddle parties-- but it's not like the cuddle party itself is an orgy. It's just not what most people consider "normal"-- whatever that really means. So, get over it.
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Posted by Aconite Tue Apr 29, 2008 9:30am PDT
That's pretty creepy, but to each his own. Personally, I don't like strangers touching me.
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Posted by pixie Tue Apr 29, 2008 9:43am PDT
WHAT'S WRONG WITH A F**K BUDDY? JUST KEEP IT SAFE WE ALL KNOW ABOUT CONDOMS RIGHT!!!!!! I WOULD NOT WANT A STRANGER TOUCHING ME AT SUCH A PARTY.
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Posted by Christine Tue Apr 29, 2008 9:59am PDT
I am a little unsure of the whole "cuddle party" thing. Normally I am pretty open minded with things. I am all for cuddling, spooning, etc. only with my partner. I think that these are important things in a relationship. I also feel that making love to someone is just as equally important. There is no other thing that brings two people together as one then "making love"! If you think this is not important in a relationship why is it that so many relationships end because of it? There is also such a thing as meaningless sex and even that is ok sometimes. The biggest thing I took out of this is that people are just to lazy to be responsible and WRAP IT UP!!!!
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Posted by Run_AroundMusic Tue Apr 29, 2008 10:14am PDT
Ummm... cuddle parties A.K.A Summer camp. For those of you who didn't get to experience such closeness with strangers for only about 6 weeks, cuddle parties might seem appealing. To me, it seems adolescent. I'm all for caring, light brushes of a hand on a friends arm... but besides that, I only want to be cuddly with my guy.
I like that this is supposed to be only touching... but it probably leads to orgies more often than not.
CREEPY!!!
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Posted by Martin Tue Apr 29, 2008 10:20am PDT
This is like an episode of Real Sex on HBO (the ones with the old/ugly people). Lets take a look at how attractive these people are... They need to organize these cuddle parties, i doubt anyone wants to sleep with them!
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Posted by Sentine Tue Apr 29, 2008 10:30am PDT
CREEPY….why would one want a stranger hugging on them.
What is the point of all that hugging with....strangers? ?You don't know what the people have.
Double YUCK!!!!
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