When determining if you should let things get serious,remember: actions speak louderthan words. With that being said,here are ten dating red flags. Ifyou see any of these, do yourself a favor and reconsider if it's worth it foryou:
1. You Are Noton the VIP List For Breaking News
Were you the last to learn about this person's job promotionor newborn niece or nephew? Oncethings are serious, you should be among the first to know about exciting news,or bad news.
2. They AvoidMeeting Your Family or Friends
If they are shying away from meeting your friends/familyconsistently, then there are problems. Even if they are very shy, they should want to meet those who areimportant to you.
3. They Don'tMake Any Sacrifices
Healthy relationships don't require bending over backwardsall the time, but a certain amount of sacrifice is necessaryin a selflessunion. When two of my friendsfirst started dating one another, she demanded that he go to Farm Aid for herbirthday, which was also the opening NFL football Sunday. While all the guys gathered to watchthe games, he was sweltering on some field attending Farm Aid-an event he neverwould have gone to if she hadn't of invited him. Now that's sacrifice.
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4. They Can'tFit In Your Future
I admit it. When I meet girls, I envision future moments I may some day share withthem. Most of my scenarios are herwith my family and I at a Christmas holiday, or at a summer crabfeast. If I'm really into her, I usuallyrelish the thought. If not, Ikinda cringe.
5. They Are TooControlling
It's scary but I've seen many relationships where guysforbid girls to hang out with certain friends, or wear certain clothes. Major problem if someone is controllingyou and not allowing you to be who you want to be within a relationship.
6. The "WhatAre We" Conversation Fails Miserably
Almost every relationship hits that crossroads where youboth decide if it's worth taking the plunge into being exclusiveand callingeach other boyfriend/girlfriend. If they are confused and surprised that you're ready to get serious, thetiming is not right, and you should try to figure out how long you want to waitaround until they are ready.
7. They Talk About Plans That Don't Involve You
My sister has major wanderlust. She's always talking about heading off to Chicago or livingin London for a year. She oftentalks about these things with no regard for the fact that she has a boyfriendat the time. If you find thatsomeone is making plans or talking about far off places without inviting youalong for the ride, don't let yourself get too into them.
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8. Your Friendsof Family Don't Like Them
Remember that your friends and family know you best. Don't take their thoughts with a grainof salt. It's one thing if aperson or two don't get along with your significant other, but if a lot of themare saying you should reconsider, then do it. Unfortunately, we often find out about how much our friendshated that person after this person is gone.
9. TheyViolated Your Trust
Whether it's cheating or a little liethat they got caughtin, it will be hard to regain trust. Trust is something we don't' give away easily and once it's gone it'shard to get it back. We'll alwaysbe wondering about that lie, and doubt will creep in more and more as our mindsfixate on that lie. Too often,people take trust for granted and once they lose it they never get it back.
10. YouPractice "Unbalanced Dating"
Are you always seeing his friends or doing things that hewants to do? Do you just let him pickthe restaurants, and events? Or isit the other way around? Relationships are fun when you are both able contribute. If you're not taking turns creating funtimes together, it will most likely fizzle out.
What would you add to the list? Ever been a victim of any of these red flags?
Posted by Rich
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