Dating Diaries: Ten Dating Red Flags

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  Posted by ole123 Fri Sep 19, 2008 10:30am PDT

  FFFF I do when he is here try to make sure we have some time to ourselves. I have the kids every other weekend. When we first started dating we only saw each other on weekends I didn't have kids so we could see where of if this was going anywhere. I would drive 300 miles out of my way to see him because it was cheaper for him to fly in else where. My kids also wanted time with him and I. So he comes occ. on weekends I have kids. Usually when that happens my sister will keep the kids over night or for awhile so we can go do things together. I feel like the kids he wants all my time. He believes in the kids are seen not heard motto is how I feel. He expects me to just take a day off work last minute when he knows the only way I can do that is if I call in sick. My job isn't easy to take time off from. I also have kids that need to get to school and my ex in-laws take the kids not there dad. So if they decide they aren't going to take them or whatever Guess what I need to take care of them. They are my responsibility. He is an adult and I expect him to act like one. I don't always like having to do whats needed of me but I do because I brought them into this world. Im not a selfish person and I dont spoil my kids but I do want them to know Im here for them. Because I can tell you if he decides he wants to leave or whatever the one sure thing is the kids I will always be there for each other.

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  Posted by nick Fri Sep 19, 2008 10:52am PDT

  Run from someone with the traits in this article. I didn't and was in a marriage from hell. Just a sample:

  1. He goes on a bicycle vacation but does not tell you he will be gone five weeks instead of the one week bike trip.

  2. He tells you he is too tired to drive an hour and a half for a family portrait made with your family, but after you leave, he drives over to the college campus an hour away to go to a music store.

  3. After eight years of marriage, he leaves for an overnight campout by himself because he is feeling trapped by the birth of his baby boy.

  4. We go on vacation and he complains because our son comes down with a fever of 102, has to go to the doctor, and spoils his vacation.

  5. He refuses to go to counseling.

  Needless to say, I stayed too long. All the signs were there when we were dating. I am now married to a kind, caring, thoughtful man who helped me raise the same in my son.

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  Posted by Khatundi Sun Sep 28, 2008 1:17pm PDT

  i just want to say that relationships can either make or break a person. i was in a controlled self centered jealous relationship. I t took the hand of God and prayers by family and friends for me to come out. The man was extremely abusive both physically and emotionally. He had actually extended it to our son. I had to leave. I left and have never communicated with him. Right now am strong and so is my precious son. Leaving can be hard but once you do it you will never regret.

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  Posted by G P Tue Oct 21, 2008 10:09am PDT

  While lucky enough to no have been in an abusive relationship I've been used so many times feel like the magnetic strip on a credit card - worn out! Would not have a man stay over as have daughter who is underage. The times that I did stay over with someone she would stay with her aunt. Problem is, it became always that would go out to his area for EVERYTHING. Even if it was just a simple dinner. He would never reciprocate. Finally got tired of it and broke it off. Backward manuver is that tried to reverse my behaviour and prevent this kind of situation occurring but it still did not work. Need to find someone who is willing to at least meet halfway, definitely! A relationship should not cost you your dignity.

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