im separated from my husband since feb 09...he has
a drug addiction. he also cheated with some woman in ny. for all
this time i was getting his check to pay the bills. i was hoping i
could get over the pain and take him back but im too hurt to
forgive now.
besides his drug addiction, he has shot a gun and pretended he
was dead. he torn down a door in the house because i didnt give him
60$...he was very aggressive and emotional and verbally abusive. 11
yrs of marriage and taking all of this from him i feel im done with
this relationship. i should be crazy to stay. its too much abuse,
too many drugs, too many lies.
yesterday he came over to tell me i
need to move out of the house. he says his fathers said he would
continue to make house payments if im not here. there was a
business before, but his father took over. since then my husband
gets checks from that company but now he says his fathers is
stopping that too. but the only way he will pay for the house is if
im not here.my name is in the deed too, so if they dont pay my
credit is ruin. my husband knows i care about that. last year he
used my credit card and spent 10,000$ i paid for it because it was
in my credit, now i regret it.
my daughter is out of the country with
my family. she is going to school and doing great. he agreed to her
moving for the school year. she is 10 yrs old. im going to see her
soon. and i was just there with her. my 18 year old son is flying
soon to work for my dad and help me with his sister while i sort
things out here. i hate being away from my kids but i feel i have
no choice. they are better there than here for now. with no money
coming in from him, i wont be able to pay for groceries, gas, house
bills etc. over there they can eat. i feel they are safer with my
parents.
i need some advice. i feel lost and maybe even scared...my aunt
thinks he has another woman and it makes sense now that i think
about it. he took money from my bank acct and left me with minus
300. then he said he was kidnapped for 3 days and his phone stolen
the last day. if his parents took this so lightly, it has to mean
that he has another woman. i dont understand how can they be so
calm if he was kidnapped and why no one file a
report???
today
i called the bank, they told me the envelopes were empty so my acct
was frozen. he took money when he faked the 300$ deposit, now im
going to have to pay the overdraft fee.
i've been on the phone
calling many different lawyers. but the retainers are high and the
1st consultation too. one is $1,000 another one $300 and so on. i
need a good lawyer because of how much is at stake!
desperate, scared, overwhelmed...what do i do now?
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Posted by Wed Aug 26, 2009 11:31am PDT
Report Abuseleave him and go to AL-ANON meetings!!! it will all work out if you follow your heart and do the right thing for you and your kids. you do not need that in your life and do not deserve to be treated that way. i was in a similar situation and my life has all come together in the absolute best way possible, i am so glad i made the decision to leave my drug-addicted boyfriend.
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Posted by Wed Aug 26, 2009 11:35am PDT
Report AbuseOh honey don't allow them to stomp all over you anymore!
Know your rights. You are worthy of happiness, and you do not deserve to be taken advantage of by drug-addicted ex's and their family.
FIGHT, FIGHT, FIGHT as hard as you can to get out of this situation with a lawyer (even if it costs you-if you can pay for their run up credit you can pay for legal advice to get out of their web) and with bold and courageous decisions (albeit hard ones too.)
You only live about 70 years, and then you're done-everything you could have been, or always wanted to be is dust-for the worms, so you need to seize the day, live fully, and take care of yourself while youre alive.
Get some legal help, but dont spend your precious time on Earth (this may be all there is, all you got) on being treated unfairly.
If this hurts, upsets, saddens you, then do what you gotta do to get out of it. Take care!
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Posted by Wed Aug 26, 2009 12:18pm PDT
Report AbuseLegal help is paramount. Go to a good law firm and tell them exactly what's going on. Don't hide anything or shield anything from them. They will help you.
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Posted by Wed Aug 26, 2009 1:50pm PDT
Report AbuseI'm so sorry for your pain. I know times are tough right now, but you are strong and you can do this. You and your kids deserve so much better than this. If he wants rid of you so badly, which I'm doubting from the stunts you indicate he's pulled, tell him to pay for the divorce. If you are on a limited income, you may be able to get legal assistance to help protect your name and credit. You will come out of this a much stronger person than you feel right now, I assure you. My God bless and keep you during these troubled times.
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Posted by Wed Aug 26, 2009 3:51pm PDT
Report Abuseouch. This is a tough situation. Like the others have said, do whatever it takes to get him out of your life. Drug addicts will only bring you down with them, guaranteed.
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Posted by Mon Sep 7, 2009 12:33am PDT
Report AbuseCry, panic, get angry, be scared, and once you've done all that and more, gather up all your strength, because you have it, and take control of your life and the siuation. Incorporate the help of family and friends. Go online and research everything on your own too, from divorce, custody, restraining orders, financial repair, etc.. Get info on free legal assistance. Once you make it through the fire, you'll be that much wiser and stronger. Thoughts and prayers.
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Posted by Thu Sep 17, 2009 7:02pm PDT
Report Abusei am sorry to say but you are looking up a dead horses ass and there is no answers there harleycharlie59@bellsouth.net
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