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Sunday, November 8, 2009

Did You Believe Him When He Promised To Change?

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I can't tell you how many times I've  heard a woman say "This is the last time", only to take a guy back who promised to change. Maybe he had that look of sincerity in his eyes, said the right thing at the right time, or did the right thing when you weren't expecting it.But despite constantly pushing boundaries to the limit, and often going beyond them, he's still in your life and you don't know why.

Broken promises have become common in relationships. Personally, I'm convinced that a lot of women just get comfortable with familiarity. Women prefer not to change partners,or worse yet, be without one. So, they continue dealing with situations in relationships that they promise themselves that they wouldn't. Simply because he's promised to change, or that it won't happen again, even though you've been through it enough times to know that it will.

Some women don't even discuss it with girlfriends, because they don't want to hear "Girl, I wouldn't put up with that if I were you. I'd kick his ass to the curb," though most of them are dealing with similar situations in their own relationships.

Many good women simply find it hard to let go of a bad situation, and for the life of me, I just can't understand why.

Just one of the many things that confuses me about women.

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  • Gigi's Avatar
    Posted by Gigi Wed Mar 18, 2009 5:45pm PDT

    I didn't believe him but I hoped he would. Surprise surprise! He didn't change so I cut him loose.

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  • Diara H's Avatar
    Posted by Diara H Thu Mar 19, 2009 4:16am PDT

    You know its sad to say but you are correct. I am a woman myself & have been guilty of this many times. Im not sure why we do this. Some of us don't want to start over as you said & are afraid of being alone.

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  • JamieR's Avatar
    Posted by JamieR Thu Mar 19, 2009 6:01am PDT

    everyone deserves a second chance. (to some extent). if the guy doesnt change when he says hes going to then i would let him go. its as simple as that.

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  • KittyKat's Avatar
    Posted by KittyKat Thu Mar 19, 2009 6:23am PDT

    I absolutely agree with your whole post. Cuz thats what I go through all the time

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  • *devotion72's Avatar
    Posted by *devotion72 Thu Mar 19, 2009 6:38am PDT

    You know WOMAN are stronger than you think! I myself have been put in the situation. It really depends on how the problem!

    Some people do change, but he has to WANT to CHANGE! You can't make them change!

    My boyfriend has not cheated on me, but there were things in his life that I was not happy with! We as a couple talked about it and He decided that it was better to change his ways! He became a better man and we get along really great!

    BUT...I noticed things within myself as well! We decided that if he wanted a change then I myself needed some things to change in me too!

    NOW we are a better couple and truly love one another!!!!! Remember it takes 2!

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  • Terry Marsh's Avatar
    Posted by Terry Marsh Thu Mar 19, 2009 10:01am PDT

    Devotion72,

    I know that women cam be strong, but I also know strong women who still love the wrong men. It's great that you've found a man who engages in active communication with you, and is man enough to live up to his promises. But, for every woman like yourself who is experiencing a great relationship, I can show you two who are miserable in theirs.

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  • Diara H's Avatar
    Posted by Diara H Thu Mar 19, 2009 11:25am PDT

    I think every woman who puts up with their man's bullsh*t is very strong to keep constantly dealing with the same stuff & somehow get through it.

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  • Kris's Avatar
    Posted by Kris Fri Mar 27, 2009 8:36am PDT

    Devotion72

    THank you , I have been looking for that response for a long time. Thank you giving me hope that i am not alone.

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  • stacey's Avatar
    Posted by stacey Fri Apr 3, 2009 12:12pm PDT

    i know how it feels i have put up with guys s--- so many times but now i told myself that i will no longer put up with it that i am strong and can do it on my own i love a man but he cant be truthful to me so i left him and am single and no lydasby you're not alone!

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