Do Bachelor Parties Make Men Do Bad Things?

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  Posted by ashley Mon Jun 15, 2009 9:27am PDT

  There's really no excuse for behavior that goes into or even borders on cheating territory. Say what you want, but the reasoning used here just makes guys seem weak-minded. If a man really cares that much what people think about him, that's not a man I want to be with. Sounds like a lot of these "men" are still boys mentally, and they should probably grow up and be their own man.

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  Posted by Marc Mon Jun 15, 2009 9:37am PDT

  I've witnesses plenty of Bachelorette parties where groups of women have no problem finding plenty of trouble themselves. They wear sex toys around their necks, drink out of penis straws and hoot & holler with the drunkest people in the bar. - As long as no one gets hurt, Go For It.

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  Posted by Applestraw Mon Jun 15, 2009 9:43am PDT

  "If a man doesn't come home with the name of a stripper penned across his forehead, it's probably a sign that he doesn't know how to have a good time."

  Yeah, or it might be a sign that he has respect for the person he's going to marry. And don't think only men have strippers at their parties-I've known plenty of women who've had strippers at their bachelorette parties. This article is lame and full of generalizations. If the bachelor party is "the opportunity to refute" the principles of marriage, then WHY are you getting married? Do people just get married because they feel it's what you do after you graduate college or hit a certain age?

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  Posted by None Mon Jun 15, 2009 9:57am PDT

  I think these are bad temptations, that only a real mature respectful man can really have fun without going overboard. Anyone should be able to go to strip clubs or parties and have fun without crossing lines, anyone should be able to walk around naked, anyone should be able to go into a bathroom for both females and males, but I am sorry men are more sick, and they will take any opportunity to do what they want. Human nature is just that.

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  Posted by Angel Morbid Mon Jun 15, 2009 10:23am PDT

  As much as I dislike Yourtango's posts because they either a) offer no real advice b) point out the obvious or c) make gender biased posts like this little number here, I just had to comment...

  I like None, Ashley, and Applestraw's comments...but to add to None's, it takes a mature, respectful woman to not cross the line as well. It goes both ways.

  Hey Judge, calm down... can't we have a simple discussion with people like you getting up in arms over it? Misogyny? Empowerment? Yeah, I'm going to ignore that one. I've never heard of any woman calling it empowerment, to say that, is to not know what "empowerment" truly means. Just stop...

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  Posted by erin Mon Jun 15, 2009 10:40am PDT

  I honestly think the these parties are stupid and a way for some weak minded people to get their last kicks in. I think that for men it's about calling the sacred unity of marriage a "prison" and for women, or bridzillas, to go crazy and let out all the rage from planning the wedding and having the ultimate girls night out. I think calling it empowerment is offensive to those of us feminists out there who think just because your brave enough to suck on a dildo in public or dink out of phallic objects really makes you look like a rather disgusting pig. It's not empowerment it's shock comedy put on by your drunkest female friends. I'm all for sex and liberation but the last thing I want my kids, mother, and grandmother to see is pictures of me drunk with a dildo around my neck drinking out of a big c--- .

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  Posted by opiniononly Mon Jun 15, 2009 10:50am PDT

  It's people make decisions to do stupid things, events do not make decisions on behavior (let's put some responsibility on the person, not the event) and I have seen both men and women act like complete fools at pre-marriage parties...usually fueled by drugs and/or alcohol.

  I do agree that women seem to get a bigger pass on bachelorette antics than men do at their parties, but either way, regardless of gender, crude behavior is not empowerment...it's just crude. Stupid is a gender-neutral behavior.

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  Posted by Lightnin' Mon Jun 15, 2009 10:54am PDT

  Do Bachelor Parties Make Men Do Bad Things? I would have to say, YES! When you have a bunch of drunk cavemen pushing the groom to "go for it" or he's a (insert name here for not being a man), stupid things happen. It's peer pressure, like a bunch of high schoolers. Mine was 5 friends having drinks at a bar. We could have went to a strip club but, what's the point of getting all worked up and not having you woman there? Guys I know that had hookers at their party got divorced a year later. They were never meant to be married in the first place. But I have been to some where the girl shows up, does her strip thing, and leaves without any problem. It usually depends on how drunk the guys are and if they're trashy scumbags or not.

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  Posted by another hockey fan Mon Jun 15, 2009 11:11am PDT

  I'm not a jealous person, but I loathe the whole bachelor/ette party concept for the mere purpose of it's intent and the after effects. If you HAVE to have a last blow out intimate party where people are getting naked, having sex or anything bordering on that behavior, you aren't ready to get married yet. I say stay single so you don't have to feel like you are "giving" anything up, God forbid.

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  Posted by erin Mon Jun 15, 2009 11:22am PDT

  I totally agree another "hockey fan 10" if you need to get wasted and fool around on your partner then you probably should not be getting married.

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