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Thursday, December 3, 2009

Do cheesy romantic gestures skeeve you out?

Poor dude. He looks so proud of himself too./Getty Images

Poor dude. He looks so proud of himself too./Getty Images


I just came across this great post on The Frisky about how sometimes your partner can do the sweetest stuff and it just melts your 'lil heart, and then again, some gestures are so damn syrupy and cheesy that it just totally turns you off. And as Shine editor Jenn Romolini pointed out, the latter ends up making you feel really bad for being such a callous, cruel person. Still, I think we can all relate to the following please-don't-do-that-ever-agains, and some of us may even be guilty of committing similar "crimes of passion" (hello answering the door wrapped in Saran Wrap--whoops). Frisky blogger Leigh Raines writes:

Things That Are Intended To Be Romantic But Provoke Gag Reflex


1. Having your date get down on his knees at a movie theater and serenade you to New Edition's "Mr. Telephone Man."

2. Having your date order for you (um maybe I wanted the chicken?).

3. Rolling in money Indecent Proposal style. Money is one of the dirtiest and most germ-infested things on the planet.

4. Rose petals leading to the bed, on the bed, surrounding the bed, whatever. Hello cliche!

5. Joint shower.One of you will be freezing while the other is under the hot water.

Things That Will Actually Turn Us To Mush

1. An unrequested foot massage after a day in heels.

2. Bringing your favorite macaroni n' cheese from across town when you aren't feeling great.

3. Having your love meet you right when you're getting off the train/plane.

4. Cooking for each other.

5. Considering your mate when you're food shopping for your apartment and picking up
snacks/tampons you know they'll want.

Read the full lists/entire post over at The Frisky, and then tell us, when it comes to romance, what makes you squeamish and what gets you all fired up (in a good way)?
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  • Some1Special's Avatar
    Posted by Some1Special Wed Oct 15, 2008 4:23pm PDT

    I did like the stuff on the second list... Anything that shows that they're thinking of you -specifically- is always good... Any chick likes flowers... It takes you paying attention to know I love lilies... lol

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  • Monique's Avatar
    Posted by Monique Wed Oct 15, 2008 5:02pm PDT

    What's wrong with joint showers? I love them. They are so not in the same category as #1.

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  • Rowdygirl's Avatar
    Posted by Rowdygirl Wed Oct 15, 2008 7:32pm PDT

    Having someone care enough about you to do any of the things on either list would be a blessing.. to complain about someone making an effort when they don't have to is just mean....

    for all the women or men who find fault with this things.. consider this. Try living and going through life all alone. No one to talk to, love you or ask about your day. If that was your true reality, all these cheesy things would seem like heaven.

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  • marina's Avatar
    Posted by marina Wed Oct 15, 2008 7:44pm PDT

    Ok, I think, for me, any of those things on both lists would make me very happy concidering the fact that I have a hard time getting him to do those things for me. But I gotta say, the flowers/flower petals leading to the bed (maybe a bit of clothing here and there)would make a lovely exciting "welcome home" after an annoying day at work, and joint showers would be hot and romantic in my oppinion. For the ordering for you thing, you could ask him what he's getting and then reply as to what you're getting.

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  • Tiny's Avatar
    Posted by Tiny Wed Oct 15, 2008 8:35pm PDT

    Any man that does anything nice and romantic (His Idea of romance) for you, appreciate it and thank him for thinking of you. Whether you think its cheesy,corny,or boarder line WTF, think of it as coming from someone you love and someone who loves you. Smile or laugh and think of how much trouble he went through to make you feel good. Romance is funny, sugary, cheesy, goovy, sweet, and loving, but most important it is sharing your ideas of romance to make someone you love happy. So what ever your idea of romance is appreciate the fact that you have someone to share it with.

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  • elysec's Avatar
    Posted by elysec Wed Oct 15, 2008 8:46pm PDT

    its the thought that counts so any of those would make me happy..trying to do something romantic and unexpected for you is defineitely a plus in a relationship.

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  • Joan's Avatar
    Posted by Joan Wed Oct 15, 2008 9:00pm PDT

    haha, it would be hard for a guy to convince me, he was thinking of me and picked up some tampons ,after I found them in his bathroom.

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  • legomyego's Avatar
    Posted by legomyego Wed Oct 15, 2008 9:13pm PDT

    I like shopping for THAT person.

    The drop dead feet up hot tea massage is a must too.

    You have to care for each other.

    Shoulder the other load or both if need be.

    We take the "us" for granted.

    The next time you see him or her-

    look at them-see them for who they are

    and feel lucky to have them.

    So very far away from me.

    McCain! Obama! Palin! Hasselbeck! Ripa! Enuf!

    What about the cup o' Joe?

    Where's The Biden in all of this??

    Makes me so upset-I could eat lasagna with chicken wings all night!

    These arent our Phil Donahue days' anymore-

    An apostle-his the moral higher fiber of vigilante justice-

    prescribed to cure, console, and carry on.

    Amen.

    We hero Phil.

    And Sally Jessie Raphael was double or something.

    The good talk TV.

    All we have left now is Oprah, Ellen, and...

    well...no comment.

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  • JoKTM's Avatar
    Posted by JoKTM Wed Oct 15, 2008 9:43pm PDT

    Cliche's can still be sweet.If you are taking a hot shower with the curtain pulled and the bathroom door shut no one should get cold.

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  • Nalene's Avatar
    Posted by Nalene Thu Oct 16, 2008 3:40am PDT

    Quote Rowdygirl "Having someone care enough about you to do any of the things on either list would be a blessing.. to complain about someone making an effort when they don't have to is just mean...."

    Agreed! I feel bad for men, they are generally damned if they do or damned if they don't. I think girls focus waaaay too much on what good well meaning guys do 'wrong' and way too little time focusing on what bad boys actually do right.

    If you have a guy who puts forth a genuine effort in trying to show that he cares. Be grateful for it!

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