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Thursday, December 3, 2009

Do he love me or do he feel pity for me.......

My husband and I have sepearted. I put him out because of his cheating. Other than that we have a 14month child together. He comes over everyday to visit us. He usually stays all day from sun up till sunn down, due to the fact that hes drawing unemployment because of his job closing. He recently told me that he do have a girlfriend. I'm wondering if he stays with her!! I'm not working right now either. So therefore hes paying all the bills including putting gas in my car, buying diapers, and me cigerettes everyday.I'm also wondering how hes taking care of me and wondering if hes taking care of her too, because he doesnt get that much unemployment. But, to make a long story short...Im still in love with my husband. Although he cheated, I want him back ( Don't no why ). Everyday when he leaves I argue with him because I dont want him to leave. I often ask him if hes in love with the other woman; and of course he tell me no. Than I say, why dont u stay? He always tell me that we have to work on our relationship and one day he is going to come back to stay. I''m confused. I think that he don't want to come back, he is just waiting for me to get a job and get back on my feet; so than he can go on with his life. ( he''s is not the type of man that dont help out). He once told my brother he only pays my bills because he have a child with me. I'm just wondering if he doing all this to keep me waiting on him or do he pity me? What is the other women getting out of him; because me and my baby and my bills are draining him. Maybe she is with him for the sex? Why is he promising me that we are getting back together if he has a girlfriend. What could he be telling her when he go home at night( because hes over here all day). Maybe, he just rather we stay split up so he can have his cake and pie too!!!!
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  • Siobhan's Avatar
    Posted by Siobhan Sat Sep 20, 2008 6:57pm PDT

    Go back to school. Your grammar is disgusting.

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  • Tracey's Avatar
    Posted by Tracey Sat Sep 20, 2008 7:10pm PDT

    First of all, get a job (both of you!) and take care of your child. I'm tired of busting ass all day long to pay for YOUR kid's diapers and food. Then, go get your tubes tied because if you have another baby, I'm certain that it will be addicted to something or other at birth. You're a tool for believing your idiot husband and if you take him back, you're an even bigger moron than he is. Go back to school and get a job. And by 'get a job' I don't mean suck welfare off the system, sitting on your ass, smoking Newports and watching BET all day long. Take care of your own sh-t and move on.

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  • Bella's Avatar
    Posted by Bella Sat Sep 20, 2008 7:11pm PDT

    Get a job and kick him to the curb! He's bad news. He IS getting his cake and eating it too. Don't be a fool. Have some respect for yourself. If he's not working, let him watch the baby. You go to work and sock it away - then you can be independent and not need him. Don't you want someone who will be true to you? Pray hard and ask God to help you find the strength you need to get the happiness you and your child deserve.

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  • Jen's Avatar
    Posted by Jen Sat Sep 20, 2008 7:25pm PDT

    Trae -

    You are a time bomb who needs some serious help.

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  • lovebutmiserable's Avatar
    Posted by lovebutmiserable Sat Sep 20, 2008 7:39pm PDT

    Yes this is lovebutmiserable, I was just reading my comments dont get it twisted TRACEY. I have an associate degree in Medical. I have a good Job right now Im On leave due to Health Problems you dumb B**CH!!!! I have been working since I was 15 and now 28. Dont act kike you aint never been through anything in your life get, your head out your a**. Your money aint buying me and may baby nothing your probaly on welfare, I have never been on welfare. Dont get it twisted!!!!!!!!!

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  • lovebutmiserable's Avatar
    Posted by lovebutmiserable Sat Sep 20, 2008 7:47pm PDT

    siobhan.....what....your grammer is retarded....and you look trashy in your PIC

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    Posted by lovebutmiserable Sat Sep 20, 2008 7:57pm PDT

    AND BUY THE WAY I Hate BET,and I smoke Mistys.....Stop judging ppl!!!1

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  • jessica's Avatar
    Posted by jessica Sat Sep 20, 2008 8:04pm PDT

    Just give yourself time to heal and dont wait around for your husband. My advice would be to focus on you and your little one and try as much as you can to keep your contact with your husband about your child and dont worry so much about him even though I'm sure it'll be difficult. I really hope things go well for you. You will be in my prayers. Just hang in there.

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  • Straightfoward(lovely lady)'s Avatar
    Posted by Straightfoward(lovely lady) Sat Sep 20, 2008 8:05pm PDT

    Hey lovebutmiserable, do not let these haters get to you. Who are they to judge anyone, and the ones that are mean, enjoy being so. Do not worry, things will get better. I cannot stand ppl who judge when they do not know the situation. Just keep your spirits up and i will say an extra prayer for you and your lil one. You have to do what is best for you, do not let anyone else make you feel bad. I don't judge, i am not perfect, as for the grammer comments, i saw nothing wrong with yours. I make mistakes all the time with my spelling. Sounds as if tracy needs to get a life. Heaven forbid, she ever lost her job and needed assistance. I will back ya, lovebutmiserable, just take care of you. Have a better night and a great week. Don't be so hard on you, you are only human.

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  • SilverFlower123's Avatar
    Posted by SilverFlower123 Sat Sep 20, 2008 9:11pm PDT

    Hi lovebutmiserable.

    I feel bad that you are going thru this in your life.

    I just wanted to stop by, a little bird told me about you LOL!!!

    Soooo. what's the problem?? Not too bad.

    You have a degree, you have a baby, you have a man that in a way cares for you and the baby, of course. Any fool can see that LOL!!!

    I'll tell you what, just try your best to get on your feet. Have him come over and help you.

    If he wants a girlfriend on the side, you cannot stop him. I know it sounds like you want that dream relationship. But you cannot be his side kick, not like that girlfriend. You feel me???

    Try to check out this site go to other nice bloggers site, read what they have to offer.

    If you are interested, you will find the answer.

    No one can force anyone, but you have to take the first steps.

    Do come around more often k?

    I hope things start looking up for you.

    Like I leave my signature bye on my shiners.

    Hershey's kisses for YA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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