Do I have a reason to be upset?

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  Posted by POETRY Fri Jul 3, 2009 8:38pm PDT

  I would be too. But is your husband going through anything that would be making him feel stress? Are there money issues? Are you both on the same page? Maybe he is going through some personal things that are making him feel distant towards you. I would make him a nice dinner or drink ( his favorite something) and sit down and talk with him. But do not point fingers with the you , you, you, thing. Just simply ask if he is alright that you have noticed that he seems withdrawn or sad or indifferent and want to know if you can help. We all go through stages in life and he may be going through a tough patch. I am sure you go through times like that yourself. we all do my advice is to talk. love him and be his friend first.

  much love PO

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  Posted by Jules (jellybean) Fri Jul 3, 2009 8:43pm PDT

  Hmm, Have you told him how you feel? Maybe when there is a time that is not stressful tell him what your anniversary means to you and how you wanted it to be special.

  I don't know what it is but it seems like after they are married they don't need to make plans anymore or set up dates or pursue you they already have you so why? am I right or wrong? I have been married for a long time and so yeah we have actually forgotten our anniversary.lol lunch would have been nice. Good luck. Peace.

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  Posted by Me Fri Jul 3, 2009 8:43pm PDT

  First, let me say this. I know that anniversaries don't always hold the same significance to some people as others. So while it was an important celebration for you, he didn't see it in the same light. But that being said, if he "knew it was special" to you, and still despite that, tried to ruin the day or just plain didn't try, then yes - you have a reason to be upset. The best thing you can do though is a) approach him logically about it. You knew it was important? Yes. What happened then? and b) see if this is a pattern. Are special occasions always like this? If that's the case then you really need to sit him down and see what's going on. Of course, if this is a random event, then you may be able to just chalk it up as one of those days.

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  Posted by Shannon Fri Jul 3, 2009 8:45pm PDT

  I sgree with Po!!!!

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  Posted by Shanna Fri Jul 3, 2009 9:14pm PDT

  HELLO!I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD LET YOUR HUSBAND KNOW HOW SPECIAL THIS DAY IS TO YOU.EVERY NEW YEAR SHOWS HOPE AND JOY. MARRIAGE IS ABOUT UNDERSTANDING AND YOU MUST BE OPEN AND COMMUNICATE TO HIM HOW YOU FEEL IF NOT EVEN THOUGH ITS BEEN 10 YEARS THINGS MAY NOT EVER CHANGE.

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