Do or don't: Eloping and having a virtual wedding

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  Posted by pwsgirl Tue Oct 21, 2008 10:29am PDT

  This is just cheesy. If they are choosing to have a "private" ceremony, that's fine, but skip the virtual stuff. They can send out announcements after the fact, "Scott and Erin were joined together in a private marriage ceremony on...." If this were me, I would at least invite my parents and siblings. I know of a couple who did this and then had a more open reception afterwards. Their reasoning? They wanted the wedding ceremony to be private and "sacred" then celebrate the occasion with family and friends afterward.

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  Posted by katy Tue Oct 21, 2008 10:40am PDT

  it think that having a private wedding ceremony is great it really gets back to what a marrige is really about but, to blog about it to share with family and friends is just rediculous. like the commenter before me said have a real party not a virtual one!

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  Posted by Sweet T Tue Oct 21, 2008 11:53am PDT

  I love the idea of a private ceremony, but my mother would absolutely kill me. I also don't understand why you'd want to spend your honeymoon blogging about your "special day." Seems like this couple needs to unplug for a while!

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  Posted by Morgan Tue Oct 21, 2008 1:07pm PDT

  We had a private ceremony on the beach, it was spectacular. But blogging? sounds like a request for gifts.

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  Posted by Angela R Tue Oct 21, 2008 5:49pm PDT

  my husband and i had a small wedding... we didnt want anyone to travel so we didnt tell anyone from out of town until about a week before (including my dad who did make it but that was besides the point.) We only had our parents, any siblings that could make it (my three youngest siblings chose to go hunting instead and that was fine by me), our friend who introduced us became a notory public so he could marry us (he was the only one who knew in advance for that reason) and our bestman and maid of honor.

  the party was open for whoever wanted to come, potluck and fun!

  so anyway, a wedding is about the people getting married and go them for doing it uniquely

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  Posted by Barbie Tue Oct 21, 2008 10:00pm PDT

  My husband and I had a private ceremony as well. My mother couldn't make it. She called all day long before and after the ceremony.

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  Posted by Dragon Sanctuary Wed Oct 22, 2008 3:18am PDT

  I think that's a fantastic idea! What a way for them truely to have their special day and still share with their families. I can see several plusses to their method:

  1: They didn't have to pay for a huge reception hall, state park rec area or country club to house all those people,

  2: They didn't have to pay for a bunch of decorations, food, DJs, the normal wedding expenses,

  3: Their relatives didn't have to pay for flights/drives to the location or hotels,

  4: Their relatives also didn't have to pay for a bunch of gifts,

  5: There weren't any 'annoying relatives' present to ruin their day (we all have them)

  6: They were still able to share their day with family and friends, while keeping it personal.

  It saved all parties involved money and no one was really excluded, while at the same time they got exactly the wedding they both wanted. Absoultely fantastic! My fiance and I may even take a cue from their book; We met online, so what better way to tie the knot than in a virtual ceremony! Then I wouldn't have to spend months trying to convince my dad to get into ceremonial garb of a culture he knows little about (We want to do an atraditional wedding; definately no white dresses and tuxes involved!) and there's be no chance of my fiance's dad getting drunk and ruining the party for everyone. It's a win-win on all sides! Bravo to them and congrats!

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  Posted by amazingly sexxxxxxy kitty and scotty Wed Oct 22, 2008 12:52pm PDT

  My hubby and I eloped on a Thursday night after work and went to work the next day. We sent out announcements, after 11 years it wasn't about the cermony anymore.

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  Posted by opiniononly Wed Oct 22, 2008 1:33pm PDT

  Can the virtual guests send virtual gifts too? Now that's an inexpensive wedding...for everyone! I think this is tacky and insulting. We want you to be part of our special day, but at a distance. Either it's a private ceremony or not...and this is not a private ceremony.

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  Posted by elle Wed Oct 22, 2008 2:10pm PDT

  I love the idea of a small wedding, but I couldn't do it the way this couple is.

  My small family is apart of my marriage. We have spent holidays together, bonded together and I would want them there no matter what.

  I say go for the small wedding, but skip the twitter updates.

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