Do or don't: Eloping and having a virtual wedding

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  Posted by Loviatar Wed Oct 22, 2008 4:53pm PDT

  My husband and I were going to have a private ceremony. But when I told my family the fact that we planned on getting married, they just had to bear witness to our union.

  I really didn't want them making a big deal about it. It was just between him and I.

  I think that this couple's method of having a wedding was a nice idea, they were still able to allow their family to witness the event without the expense of having them travel to the wedding.

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  Posted by Scott Wed Oct 22, 2008 6:58pm PDT

  UHHH, I wouldn't want to get married over the internet. I'm on the internet a lot, so there wouldn't be anything unique about the ceremony. I'd want to go someplace tropical, if you know what I mean.

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  Posted by Scott Wed Oct 22, 2008 6:59pm PDT

  Crap, I didn't read the article before posting... STill... TROPICAL! :D

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  Posted by Wed Oct 22, 2008 7:11pm PDT

  I wouldn't have a virtual ceremony but it's their day and they can do as they wish. It sure won't be private and maybe they should have given people the option to attend in person or do the virtual thing. My mother would have done more than flip out she would have killed both of us!

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  Posted by Spitfire/Flash/Torchy/Tinker Wed Oct 22, 2008 7:59pm PDT

  tacky, tacky people......what's with the repulsive tongue display? they're probably the type of people who push the wedding cake into each other's faces. Yuck! Grow up before you get married, whatever your age is. They are clearly not "in the bloom of youth".

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  Posted by Emily C Wed Oct 22, 2008 10:09pm PDT

  I would absolutely elope, although I wouldn't classify what they're doing as eloping. You can't really call it that if you're inviting people, internet or otherwise. Plus, how special is attending a wedding if you're not even there?! I'm sorry, but either make it private or make it public. An inbetween e-wedding is just lame. Eloping simplifies so much though. I haven't had any friends do it yet, but it runs in my family, both sets of my grandparents eloped. Perhaps I shall follow suit!

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  Posted by CherylG Wed Oct 22, 2008 11:09pm PDT

  I think it is wonderful that two people want to share there lives together and have enough love to share with the whole family. In the hard times today we need some relief on how much money we spend on things the important part of the wedding is the vows and see how happy the couple is and you don't have to spend money for that so why not a virtual wedding. It makes so much sense I just jealous that I didn't think of it first. My best wishes to you both.

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  Posted by Ame Wed Oct 22, 2008 11:26pm PDT

  I love the idea. It would save so many people so much money. The number one thing couples divorce over is money. The average cost of a wedding in the US - $20,000. So - you do the math. I have friends who are getting divorced after 3, 4, or 5 years, and still paying for the wedding - the cost is now split in the divorce settlement. It's ridiculous.

  Some of us also have friends and family who are unable to attend for whatever reason(s). My husband's grandmother was not able to travel to our wedding. What a wonderful way to share the day with others.

  As far as getting gifts - that's just what some of you are assuming. Nowhere did it say they asked for gifts. If you think a couple should have to shell out money for some fancy dinner just so you can give them a gift, that's your problem - not their's.

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  Posted by www.heathereden.com Wed Oct 22, 2008 11:35pm PDT

  It's been done before. But, what they could do is blog after the honeymoon in their own personalized digital photobook, print it and then have that as their keepsake, and available for purchase and viewing online for family and friends. They should have a wedding party after returning celebrating the offical Mr. and Mrs., and create their own gift registry, because yes, gift giving is appropriate for weddings. But, they shouldn't forget to create the invitations and prepare for the wedding party before they elop so that when they return, things run smoothly afterwards. ;) ANYWAY, THAT'S WHAT I'D DO IN THEIR SHOES....

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  Posted by massoul Thu Oct 23, 2008 1:29am PDT

  okay a virtual wedding? if they really want a private lil ceremony with just them, then what happened to the word speech? i mean really. if u want to be completely alone with ur special someone then tell them tht. Sure, they are gonna be sad or whtever, but they are gonna get over it. i know many things are virtual now but weddings should not be on the list. tht just takes the meaning out of marriage to me. its like saying, "Lets go get virtually married!" wheres the meaning in tht?

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