Love + Sex
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
Do or Don't: Spilling About Your Sex Life to Your Parents
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Sarah Palin
recently
admitted she was shocked to hear that her daughter,
Bristol, was pregnant because she didn't think that she was
even having sex. Does your mom know about your sex life?
One of my girlfriends (who is 29) hides that fact that she's
on birth control from her mom for fear that she'd have to admit
that she isn't a virgin anymore. Even though her mom knows that
she's in a serious relationship, my friend said she's
convinced her mom thinks she's never slept with anyone because
she's never told her otherwise. She and her mom are close about
everything else, so she feels bad not telling her all the
details.
Do you tell your parents (especially your mom) the
details of your love life? Does your mom think you're more
chaste that you really are?
P.S.
Do you talk to your parents about your love life?
How much do you tell your friends about your sex life?
And are your parents super traditional?
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Posted by another hockey fan Wed Nov 18, 2009 7:12am PST
OMG! Exactly what else would Sarah Palin say? Yes, she thought it was totally acceptable. Please she knows that would have killed her campaign and now, she's just trying to keep this goodie two-shoes image up.
As far as telling your folks, it would nice to think everyone has folks that would be understanding, but the reality is most young women probably don't.
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Posted by Mauna Wed Nov 18, 2009 7:22am PST
If I did that, as the last boyfriend I had and dated, my father ranting and raving that "this is not a brothel!" The dual minded monster I have to tolerate with everyday and fails to realize why I choose to be single excluding my financial situation. Daddy dearest as I say...it is and always has been about HIM and no one else who can have anything descent with that type of Mind set period??!!!
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Posted by Nicole Wed Nov 18, 2009 7:32am PST
This is the struggle in my life right now. I'm 23 and lost my virginity last week. My relationship with my boyfriend is growing stronger everyday, but I still haven't told my parents about him. It's difficult because I'm their youngest and their only daughter. I just don't know how they'll react. Sometimes ignorance is bliss, but the truth must be revealed at some point.
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Posted by Phoenix Wed Nov 18, 2009 7:41am PST
I'm trying desperately to avoid posts about Palin, but clearly it's not working. I'm sick to death of her and her whole family. Imagine my surprise when I opened this seemingly unrelated article and the first thing I see is Palin's name. Now before somebody shoots me, I'm really only upset because she's in my face and I don't want her there. I don't care how anyone feels about her or her politics, but this saturation has reached my breaking point.
Can the media please stop shoving her down the public's throat? PLEASE?
That aside, yes I told my mom when I started having sex. She was understanding and provided me with the things I needed to be safe. I feel terribly sorry for young women who don't feel they can be open with their parents especially with something as important as this.
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Posted by Coug Girl Wed Nov 18, 2009 7:59am PST
I was completely honest with my mom, and I hope my kids will be honest with me, too. I would like to think, whether it's realistic or not, that if I know my kids are having sex, then I know they're being responsible about it.
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Posted by Time_Traveller Wed Nov 18, 2009 8:10am PST
Almost all parents that I've ever met dreads that time when their children are grown up to the point that they..
Most parents accept it as natural, fortunately, and allow their children to go forth into life and will provide a safe haven should it ever become necessary.
A few can't accept it and I feel sad for those people who can't make their parents understand that they are adults living their own life.
Regarding the friend At 29 .. one of those two will be fooling herself and I would assume that it's the daughter - but I'm occasionally naïve.
As for that Palin woman, for once she might actually be telling the truth - parents tend to see their children as children even after they are all grown up.
The real litmus test is how do those parents deal with reality.
In general one should keep certain private information private unless it becomes necessary to disclose it.
Your parents needn't know about your sex life, they needn't know about your financial situation, they needn't know (in detail) about your health. They can guess but that is all they need do.
But that is of course just my opinion.
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Posted by katie Wed Nov 18, 2009 8:33am PST
I have a very open and honest relationsip with my dad (he and i are much closer than myself and my mom). He knows when I first had, sex, when I got onto the pill, and that I'm getting an IUD in 2 weeks. But perhaps he only knows as much as he does because I still live with him.
I think he prefers it this way, too. So instead of him THINKING I'm currently sexually active and WONDERING if I'm protecting myself, he KNOWS that I am and can be at ease.
I'm probably one of the lucky ones, though, that doesn't have an over-protective father who wants to keep my locked up until I hit 30.
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Posted by blah_blah_darling Wed Nov 18, 2009 8:48am PST
i haven't told my parents i'm having sex, i haven't told my dad i'm dating! he gets very overprotective, and scares guys away... i don't know why i haven't told them the truth, i just feel like it's just too much of a hassle...
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Posted by Theresa Wed Nov 18, 2009 9:02am PST
Hmm. This is a right and left hand question. Both about equal. Yes and No. Probably pretty obvious since they did raise us. Hmmmmmm.
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