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Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Do pick up lines still work?

An old school topic mixed with some new school rhetoric.

Have you ever been in the predicament where you feel someone is checking you out, and from your peripheral vision you see him coming from a mile away, he is kind of cute so your heart is racing, impatient for him to make his way through the crowd and sweep you off of your feet in front of all your girlfriends with his rock star swagger, and Romeo like poetic terminology. He gently reaches for your hand, you feel the sensation pulsating from your wrist to your fingers, your head turns to catch the total full body view; you like what you see, and with your eyes fixated on his lips he utters something along the lines of “I lost my teddy bear, will you sleep with me?”, and just as he fumbles the ball, you start to question why some guys say what they say, or just have problems saying what they really want to say.

I do not have to remind the ladies that most guys are not naturally gifted with the smooth talking chromosome embedded in their genes, nor do the majority of men possess the Don Juan charm and charisma that others enjoy. Pick up lines provide a place for guys to hide behind their shyness, it allows them to break the ice of being uncomfortable when faced with the situation of looking directly into the eyes of a beautiful woman with a warm friendly smile, and maintaining their cool. Pick up lines are a guys gateway drug to either success, or rejection, but before you go soliciting your contraband to the next woman in sight, here is a guide.

The goal here is to embed a memorable impression which is key in a woman’s mind; that is the reason for using pick up lines in the first place, but face it; women get hit on all of the time, from school to church to the local grocery store the list can go on and on, but especially in a bar/club where the ratio tends to be more in favor of the woman than the man. Point being is that they have heard it all before, or at least something similar, so when thinking pick up line think short, catchy, and to the point. First, a rehearsed, but non scripted sounding line or two normally works best; women have a keen eye for B.S. as well as a line that sounds like it was being practiced while getting dressed. Secondly, to execute catchy, compliment her on her wardrobe, although simple most guys are so overwhelmed, or overconfident in themselves that they simply overlook this approach. Another alternative for catchy would be to reach for her waist or wrist and when I say reach I mean reach do not grab, keep in mind this is a judgment call, if you feel confident enough to make the move for the waist by all means go for it, if not I would advise seriously to stick with the hand (no need for you to piss her off, and have the scene turn into a Rhianna Chris Brown fiasco). Lastly, to get to the point you want to state what you want, not to passively, and not to aggressively, but somewhere in the middle and remember it is not always about saying the right thing; it is how you say it. A tip I use to remember this is by keeping your three C’s: Cool, Confidence, and your Composure no matter the situation, no matter the circumstance.

Taking all this into account next time you approach a beautiful lady back straight head up maintaining your cool, confidence, and compusure walk up to her and say, "See my friend over there? He wants to know if you think I'm cute."

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  • Kaylamonkey's Avatar
    Posted by Kaylamonkey Thu Mar 26, 2009 7:28am PDT

    wow you type alot!!! im not gonna read all of that no offence!!! but 2 ur question do pickup lines work it just depends on what you say!!! like one time a boy came up 2 my bff and said if you were a buger i would pick you!????!!???? she socked him in the face and he cried

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  • Shari's Avatar
    Posted by Shari Thu Mar 26, 2009 6:02pm PDT

    Did they ever work? I always think it's because women like to picked up if they respond well to that nonsense and they forgave men their weirdy ways because it makes them feel good to hit on girls.

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  • Kat's Avatar
    Posted by Kat Fri Mar 27, 2009 7:50am PDT

    I don't think a guy has ever used a pick up line on me. Mostly, they just walk up and say hi and tell me their name and we pick up from there. I don't want to be stalked or stared at and if you come on too strong, I'll find a way to go elsewhere. Same thing goes for after you come over, say hi and tell me your name, don't stop talking and get all shy on me. I'm going to wonder why you bothered coming over at all.

    Once, I'd had a few drinks at a bar and I saw this guy and I was trying to decide if he was cute or not so I actually walked over to him and started looking at him. He said "what's up?" and I said "I'm trying to decide if you're cute or not." He replied "And?" and I said something like "yeah, I think you are cute!". It didn't go far after that. I got a semi date, meeting back up at the bar and a kiss followed by some phone calls. That was about it. Just a little something from me, to you.

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  • DavidT's Avatar
    Posted by DavidT Sat Mar 28, 2009 9:46am PDT

    I couldnt imagine hitting on a woman at the grocery store!! I defintley wouldnt use some hokie line on her if I did. But then again this old guy doesnt hit on anybody so what do i know:)

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  • Leggz's Avatar
    Posted by Leggz Wed Apr 1, 2009 2:03pm PDT

    I think that pick up lines work sometimes. But I don't think a guy needs to have a smooth line just to come up and talk to me. I like guys to be themselves, confident and comfortable in their own skin.

    This is a really nice post Outside the Box Thinker. And your name is really cool.

    ~Leggz~

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  • RyneishaB_05's Avatar
    Posted by RyneishaB_05 Wed Apr 1, 2009 2:06pm PDT

    lol...thats so true...i didnt think anyone used pick up lines anymore but yesterday my sister went to the grocery store and this guy was following her and finally approached her and said "do you have any friends?" my sister said "yes" he said "well can i be one of them?" lol. When she told me that i was like "thats such a pick up line" great post i loved it and its very true!!!!!!!!

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    Posted by RyneishaB_05 Wed Apr 1, 2009 2:09pm PDT

    oh yeah and i agree with leggz...sometimes when a guy approaches me with a pick up line, it throws me off and now im thinking "hes full of ish"...lol but yea i totally agree with leggz!!! ~Be yourself~

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