Do Tell: What Would You Do If Your Husband Cheated?

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  Posted by Jonea Mon Aug 17, 2009 8:55am PDT

  i wld give him another chance

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  Posted by Susanna R Tue Aug 18, 2009 7:56am PDT

  While the affair is possibly forgiveable, I'd draw the line at the deliberate humiliation in the press. A man who declares another woman his soul mate and his wife a chore he has to "try" to fall back in love with is not much of a man at all. To say such things in the media is vicious and cruel to both his wife and the four sons who he also betrayed.

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  Posted by kimberly b Wed Aug 19, 2009 9:18pm PDT

  Righteous assumption. The truth is that affairs, especially those that go on for some time, are more a defect of the marriage than of the man (or woman) that has the affair itself. We are so geared to pity the "wronged" spouse that we ignore the obvious. If they were such a happily married couple, then why did the affair happen in the first place? Affairs do not occur in a vacuum. Long term affairs do not occur simply because an opportunity presents itself. In fact, most cheating spouses seek solice in another's arms precisely because they are not receiving what they need in their spouse's. The "wronged" spouse plays a role in the affair. If one sets blame aside, the reasons for the affair become clearer.

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  Posted by kimberly b Wed Aug 19, 2009 9:30pm PDT

  One other thing to consider : money and it's role in keeping spouses involved in dead marriages (and a marriage without trust is, in fact, dead). The first concern for most married women is her finances and the potential for damage to her lifestyle and status. The truth is that a lot of the "forgiveness" espoused by the "wronged" partner is more about her fear of losing her income. Divorce for many women means poverty and for high profile women like Mrs. Sanford, it means a fading into social oblivion. If you add the fact that divorce is often seen as a failure more of the woman (especially among older and Christian women), a further blow to her status as a woman, it is not difficult to see why so many women stay.

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  Posted by I need some competition Sun Aug 30, 2009 3:33am PDT

  well well well..I do believe at one point most of us have been in her place. Wearing those same ol shoes...I recently caught my husband. After all that time you think you know somebody..then bam...it hits you full force.

  I personally don't blame her for leaving. The pain is too great when you are dedicated to somebody in that manner and find out what you had been living was a lie...his SOUL MATE!!!??? Come on...it's over. Since she is his soul mate then he should be with her. Let the wife do her thing!!!

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