Kelli and her daughter Finley: they will always make time for me!
When I visited my friend Kelli, she asked me how my dinner was with Kiptyn (she knew him in high school). I said, “Oh, he said he was busy getting ready to leave town for three weeks, so we postponed it to lunch today, but you know, time got away…” and listening to myself, I just sounded so lame. I seemed to be making excuses for the guy, when really I was just repeating what he’d said. Then I was like, “It’s fine, I don’t care…”—so Kelli wouldn’t think I put up with flakiness—which sounded bad as well. What’s a girl to do? I guess you don’t ever tell people your plans, in case the guy flakes, and then you don’t have to tell them why he flaked or act like you approve when really you’re just reporting the facts.
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I think we ladies find ourselves in this position more often than guys, if only because we put a higher priority on dating than men do. A recent study found that men are more motivated by money than women are, and women are motivated by things like family. Which means we make plans to see men and the men cancel those plans in order to go make money. Ha! It all seems so simple now. (Related: Is Ambition Antithetical to Love?)
Do you ever feel like you’re explaining what a guy said, and it sounds like you’re making excuses for him? When really he was the one making excuses? But because you’re saying it, it’s like you’re somehow on board with it or happy to put up with it, even though you’re just repeating it? Am I weird?
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