Do you like the person that you have become ?

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  Posted by sascha Mon Oct 27, 2008 4:58am PDT

  Yeah that's a good question and strangely enough I was thinking it the other day. I came to the conclusion that yes i do, sometimes. Explanation? Ok. The realtionship here is not of a romantic one, rather those with my friends or people I've consisdered my friends for a long time. I feel I'm getting to that point where my ideas, feelings, opinions, view point are changing as I get older but they stay exactly the same and it's stifling. As a result I'm not the best person I can be when I'm around them, I feel negative and angry about everything just being in their company. Is that strange? I feel there are such double standards, repromanding me for things they do all the time, yet when it comes from me it's suddenly the worst thing in the world. I feel lost, like there's no-one to turn to coz when you don't have your friends who do you have. Yes family ok, but it's not the same. SO when I'm on my own engaing in my choice of things in my own way, then yes I like who I am but when faced with this situation, then no.

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  Posted by lizardladyfla Mon Oct 27, 2008 5:08am PDT

  Yes I do!considering my many mistakes in the past,the one choice I made,to marry my guy 19 years ago,was the best!Befor we met,I was pretty wild.I was so tired of my life style.I got down on my knees and prayed for a good man and a better future.2 weeks later,we met,and 8 months later,we married.My grandmoter told me I would know when the right one came along.He did!

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  Posted by RachaelG Mon Oct 27, 2008 8:29am PDT

  I feel that i have no choice in deciding if i like the person i have become. it's hard because one day i go from extremely happy with everything and the world, to the next day feeling like I am vile and disgusting and worthless and an eye sore, and headache to everyone, so much as i want to move to a different city and hold myself up in an apartment only to leave to work, eventually becoming the crazy cat lady because i suck at life. everything about it is half and half to the extreme, my family relationships, my work situation, my living situation. So i love the good half, but i feel ashamed and embarrassed to have the bad half. The only thing that i am truly content with is my relationship with my boyfriend. The relationships i've had in my past were upsetting and were probably part of the reason all the bad parts in my life are so seemingly bad, and lack of self esteem. So by taking all those bad relationships, i know better how to hold onto this one, and my heart aches already for the day that i wont have him anymore. There is nothing i can do about my past, thats why i feel like i have no choice to like who i am now. The whole self help/ wellness awareness movement that has been going on just reminds me of how horrible of a person i really am, and how beacause of my past, i can never really be the person i want to be.

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  Posted by scott Mon Oct 27, 2008 10:01pm PDT

  This is to beeezfly OUCH Don't be so hard on yourself. Can you change your past or what you may have done in the past ? No !!! Can you change your future ? Yes if you want to ? Leave your past in the past ! When you open your eyes in the morning say to yourself that you are going to make today better than yesterday and strive to do it !!!

  It took me a long time to be where I am at in my life now. Being in and out of different marriages, many lady friends in between and during the first two marriages and things that I truely regret that have happened around me. I knew there was a nicer person deep within me but finding a way to let him out was really hard thing for me. I made my life harder on myself without any help from others but once I did realize what I was doing I had someone teach me about Fate. That things happen for a reason that we may not understand at the time but we eventually see why things happened the way they did. Our past lives and things that may have happened, happened for a reason and that is to teach us. Fate we are suppose to learn from it. Did you ??? Only you can become the person that you want to be in life. Believe in Fate, Believe in yourself and learn and try everyday to make the next day better for yourself and those around you ! I let no one to laugh at me louder than I laugh at myself for things that I may have done because no one knows better than me how lucky I am to be alive and where I am at in my life today !

  I asked a question for you to ask yourselves but I hope I made you look inside of yourselves ???

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  Posted by 51/50 Tue Nov 4, 2008 4:56am PST

  only u breeez, can decide if u like who u've become. and, only u can change it if u dont. thats easier said than done, but its true.

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