Looking around at the earth's processes, I'm reminded of howlucky we are to have beautiful things in the world.
Way beneath the earth's surface, when carbon has been placedunder enough pressure, diamonds are formed. It takes millions of years for this process to occur. When a parasite drills into a mollusksshell, that mollusk performs a set of defensive actions that result in theformation of a pearl.
Okay, maybe love happens easier than diamonds or pearlshappen. Or does it? Like other beautiful things in nature,a lot of things have to happen for anything to culminate. One of the main governing forces overthese kinds of processes is good old-fashioned luck.
Here are four elements of falling in love that require alittle bit of luck to ensure success:
Timing
When two people meet and start hanging out, a key to takingthe next step in a relationship is where people are in their lives. Are they both in a position to be ableto be close to someone? Perhapsone of the two is working on their career too much, or maybe someone has justbeen through a painful relationship not too long before, and can't commit.
When it all works out, people come into one another's lifeat just the right time. And, luckhas a lot to do with it because you really can't plan it-you can only hope thatit happens just right.
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Circumstance dictates the entire process of running into aperson.Are you both living in thesame town? What brought you there? Every meeting you have with everyperson in your life is determined by a combination of personal choices andevents in your life. As Back to the Future taught us, even the most minute choice/action can change the future.
If you want to go even further back, your existence is basedon events and choices of ancestors before you stretching far back in time. So, not only are we all lucky to be onearth, but we are lucky that our significant other is on earth as well, andeven luckier that circumstance brought us together.
First Impression
They say first impression is everything. This holds true in business andpleasure. We base so much on thatfirst meeting with a person. There's a lot of luck involved. People like me are lucky when we can control what we say and not screwanything up right off the bat. OK,maybe there is some control over that, but what about subtle things?
Perhaps when you approach someone in a bar, a particularsong happens to be on, or the lighting and atmosphere are just right to giveyour meeting a little more impact. Making a memorable and emotional first impression is not easy; so alittle luck always helps.
Chemistry
When my high school teacher told me that everything a humandoes is based on chemical reactions in the brain, I was floored. From then on I walked aroundwondering about the chemical reactions going on in my head that made me wave toa friend, or snap my fingers along with a song. heck, how do the chemicals in my brain even make me like asong?
With so much complex brain chemistry telling us what welike, what we do, who we are, and if we are happy or sad, we are lucky thatpeople even exist that we can blend with. I am convinced that my brain chemistry is so scrambled that there are nopossible compatible female minds. But I'll keep looking, and perhaps I will be lucky enough to meetsomeone who is not only compatible, but makes all my brain chemistry happy.
What parts of relationships require luck to work out? Do you think there is some cosmic forcethat we have no control over that assists in bringing us together? Or are we in total control of ourromantic lives? How does luckfigure in to your love life?
Posted by Rich
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