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Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Do You Need to Be Lucky to Find Love?


Looking around at the earth's processes, I'm reminded of howlucky we are to have beautiful things in the world.

Way beneath the earth's surface, when carbon has been placedunder enough pressure, diamonds are formed. It takes millions of years for this process to occur. When a parasite drills into a mollusksshell, that mollusk performs a set of defensive actions that result in theformation of a pearl.

Okay, maybe love happens easier than diamonds or pearlshappen. Or does it? Like other beautiful things in nature,a lot of things have to happen for anything to culminate. One of the main governing forces overthese kinds of processes is good old-fashioned luck.

Here are four elements of falling in love that require alittle bit of luck to ensure success:

Timing

When two people meet and start hanging out, a key to takingthe next step in a relationship is where people are in their lives. Are they both in a position to be ableto be close to someone? Perhapsone of the two is working on their career too much, or maybe someone has justbeen through a painful relationship not too long before, and can't commit.

When it all works out, people come into one another's lifeat just the right time. And, luckhas a lot to do with it because you really can't plan it-you can only hope thatit happens just right.

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Circumstance

Circumstance dictates the entire process of running into aperson.Are you both living in thesame town? What brought you there? Every meeting you have with everyperson in your life is determined by a combination of personal choices andevents in your life. As Back to the Future taught us, even the most minute choice/action can change the future.

If you want to go even further back, your existence is basedon events and choices of ancestors before you stretching far back in time. So, not only are we all lucky to be onearth, but we are lucky that our significant other is on earth as well, andeven luckier that circumstance brought us together.

First Impression

They say first impression is everything. This holds true in business andpleasure. We base so much on thatfirst meeting with a person. There's a lot of luck involved. People like me are lucky when we can control what we say and not screwanything up right off the bat. OK,maybe there is some control over that, but what about subtle things?

Perhaps when you approach someone in a bar, a particularsong happens to be on, or the lighting and atmosphere are just right to giveyour meeting a little more impact. Making a memorable and emotional first impression is not easy; so alittle luck always helps.

Chemistry

When my high school teacher told me that everything a humandoes is based on chemical reactions in the brain, I was floored. From then on I walked aroundwondering about the chemical reactions going on in my head that made me wave toa friend, or snap my fingers along with a song. heck, how do the chemicals in my brain even make me like asong?

With so much complex brain chemistry telling us what welike, what we do, who we are, and if we are happy or sad, we are lucky thatpeople even exist that we can blend with. I am convinced that my brain chemistry is so scrambled that there are nopossible compatible female minds. But I'll keep looking, and perhaps I will be lucky enough to meetsomeone who is not only compatible, but makes all my brain chemistry happy.

What parts of relationships require luck to work out? Do you think there is some cosmic forcethat we have no control over that assists in bringing us together? Or are we in total control of ourromantic lives? How does luckfigure in to your love life?


Posted by Rich

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  • Rae's Avatar
    Posted by Rae Tue Feb 3, 2009 7:30pm PST

    After seeing my bloody valentine...I dont know about mining and diamonds, although it does give a few good uses for a pick-axe :)

    All I know is your either in my face or your not :) The rest is just azs and elbows going towards someone or away from someone.

    I personally like a full frontal, but I guess that depends on the individual.

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  • Ravi kumar's Avatar
    Posted by Ravi kumar Wed Feb 4, 2009 1:53am PST

    hi, im ravikumar. im 24 male from india.

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  • Sarah's Avatar
    Posted by Sarah Wed Feb 4, 2009 5:48am PST

    I agree there is some luck that goes into it...I also believe that we have to each be open to it, in a way like you said above--it's all in the timing. Good Post!

    Sarah

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  • Jess's Avatar
    Posted by Jess Wed Feb 4, 2009 6:32am PST

    I think luck has a lot to do with it. As beings who love order, control, patterns and statistics, I think that's hard for a lot of people to accept. And maybe I'm wrong about luck, but who can really say? I know that I can't make myself believe there's only one person out there for everyone, and I think luck, chance, circumstance are the key players in love. It can feel kinda depressing to think that, but knowing it's out there and knowing just how incredible it can be when it happens makes it worth the wait. My opinion anyway.

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  • MarcieM's Avatar
    Posted by MarcieM Wed Feb 4, 2009 6:46am PST

    I have to say , from recent personal experience you have hit the nail on the head! I recently met someone on the net (imagine that). It turns out this person happens to be the male version of myself. That is a scary thought ,because now the world has to deal with the two of us 2gether! It all came down to being in the right place at the right time.

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  • Anirban's Avatar
    Posted by Anirban Wed Feb 4, 2009 8:20am PST

    I know one thing that this world is full of attractive things.We usually get attracted to our opposite sex.What we actullay think is because of the chemical rections going in our brain.I cannot say that One has to be lucky enough because you see everyone can get his or her love you don't need to find one.A momment will definetly come in your life when you will meet with your love and if you are able to recognise it according to me you will definetly get succes.These days even boys and girls below the age of 18 fall in love.The main thing is that most of us don't know " What is love ? "

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  • phillip's Avatar
    Posted by phillip Wed Feb 4, 2009 8:24am PST

    Funny, most people spend their lives looking for love, when it could be standing right in front of them. They think love is how they themselfs feel, the chemistry. They tell another person, "I love you" because that person makes them feel good. What happens if that person stops making them feel that way? Do they go out and search for another to regain those feelings?

    Love isn't what you feel for someone, love is what you give someone, it's a gift. Love is devotion, sacrifice, forgiveness, and giving. Once you realize that you can take a look at someone you know well and decide whether you could see yourself growing old with them. Sharing a life together. Growth.

    Once you know what love is, it is easy to find. Why? Because love is within yourself. You just have to ask yourself whether your willing to give it to someone.

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  • Malik's Avatar
    Posted by Malik Wed Feb 4, 2009 8:34am PST

    hello ! malikkashif123pak@yahoo.com

    looking for love .

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  • phillip's Avatar
    Posted by phillip Wed Feb 4, 2009 9:06am PST

    Just want to edit my interpretaion of love. Love is devotion, sacrifice, forgiveness, and empathy.

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  • Khen's Avatar
    Posted by Khen Wed Feb 4, 2009 7:22pm PST

    in this world theres no such thing that can realy make us happy,some can say that ther happy now but how about in the next day??..in my life i realy wanted to fined a true love,but no 1 can make me happy at the 1st relationship we can all say we are so happy with our some one.but after a month or a year,,,all we can say is "its hurt"so i dont beleive in true love...

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