Written by: Alexis Golling
- When two people become friends, they share a bond built on
something they have in common with each other. As time goes on, the
two learn to love and build trust. These healthy friendships are
vital because everyone needs companionship. Friends are supposed to
build you up, be supportive, act as a guide, lend a listening ear,
provide advice, and be able to enjoy spending time with each other.
A friendship that involves aggression and/or competition is not
a true friendship. There should be a strong bond between
friends, but it should not involve any negativity or strife. You
never hurt, or offend your true friend, because what they feel, you
feel. A relationship with aggression needs to be evaluated to
realize if it is beneficial or hazardous to a person.
- 'Strong friendships' are tied together by a bond of
love and respect for the other person. Through thick and thin, good
friends keep their friends’ best interest in mind. As friends
develop enemies or problems with other people, friends use
aggression and direct it at others, not each other. If friends ever
get into a disagreement, respect and consideration for the other
comes into play and the friendship is not lost over it. Strong
friendships never lose the bond that had so been established. The
two know that if they stop being friends, it was never a true
friendship. Keeping a friendship true and strong takes
perseverance, not aggression. The two people build each other up;
they fill the voids within the other person, especially when they
find themselves vulnerable. When one isn’t as strong as the other,
they learn how to depend on each other.
- There are people in a person’s life who are there to be true
friends, or are there for entertainment. The entertaining ones are
the ones that frequently have aggression as a part of the
relationship because there is no bond of love or respect for the
other person. These frequently involve unspoken competition and
judging going on in minds – especially with females. These are
unhealthy relationships. They force people to make an effort to
please other people over issues that are not worth so much. On the
outside, these fake friends laugh and smile in each other’s
presence, giving the impression of a friendship; but with a true
friend, not only is your face smiling, laughing, or crying, but so
is your heart.
- When you have a true friend, you have someone that does not
care what your appearance is, or how much better you are than
someone else. All that matters in a strong friendship is that you
are connected with someone at a level deeper than what is just
observed. You establish a sense of each other; beyond physical
boundaries, you are family. What they feel, you feel; when your
friend is hurt, you feel their pain.
Once a friendship establishes that strong bond of Love and Respect, aggression has no presence.
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