Does it make any sense to dislike the person that you
love?
A friend recently asked me if it’s possible for a person to dislike
someone they love. In thinking about this topic on Commitment that
I’ve been procrastinating on, I feel to dislike someone you love is
a false statement and therefore makes their expressed commitment to
their partner untrue as well.
I suspect that sometimes we may confuse the aspect of simply being
angry with someone with the aspect of disliking them. I don’t feel
a person loves someone they dislike. But I think it’s natural, but
not necessarily favorable, to occasionally feel angry at someone we
love. However, if such anger is chronic or fairly frequent, then I
think there’s a likely compatibility problem.
So what do you think, does it make any sense to dislike the person
you love? What are your thoughts?
Wishing everyone a beautiful day!
Peace, Love and Harmony,,, Shawn
Does it make any sense to dislike the person that you love?
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Posted by Wed Oct 21, 2009 10:00am PDT
Report AbuseIn my view,..No!..It doesn't make sense. The person that you love, must be your friend, first. The feelings of indifference, toward one, negates that friendship obligation, that is contractual between two people. The emotional disconnect lowers the resiliency of one towards another, and the dissapation of a basis for "real love" results in scarring the attachment between them both. If thats not the case than the emotional feelings are based on some other irrational manifestational thought process, such as "infatuation". Friendship requires communication, companionship and love on some level. Without these requirements in place, the real emotional love for another has a totally different basis for existing. Those reasons can be innumerable within our society...Just a thought..
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Posted by Wed Oct 21, 2009 6:53pm PDT
Report AbuseNot necessarily dislike He as a human being, but more of his habits, etc. which I know if all were sensitive enough to, (as all of us demand respect from one another) to pay attention to our own weak areas when someone you are close to is having an "issue" with you. Creature of Habits as some Psychologists say, however, I wonder if the phrase Old habits die hard is actually true?
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Posted by Wed Oct 28, 2009 12:38am PDT
Report AbuseI agree with Shawn in regards to being angry with someone you love versus hating them. If you have gotten to the point of hating the one you love, be it your Spouse or significant other. The truth is you were probably never in love to begin with. It was infatuation or lust you felt. Worse yet, when you uttered those three little words "I Love You". Usually spoken in the heat of the moment or thought of for the first time when you see your significant other getting along so well with your Parents or Aunt Lillian at a family gathering. So many scenarios come to mind, but you get the picture. Be it a family member of any kind, I believe that answer is a yes. You can dislike that kind of loved one. Though we cannot choose our family. So we learn to grin and bear it. Life is too short to harbor resentment and bitterness.
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