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Saturday, November 7, 2009

Does Marriage Make You Fat?

Just in case you needed another reason not to get married, scientists at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill (UNC) have come up with a big one: marriage makes you fat. And not just a little bit. According to their research, married people are twice as likely to become obese as those who are merely dating.

We know what you're thinking: In that case, why not just shack up and not get married?

Oh, if only it were that easy.

After following the weight and relationship status of 6,949 individuals for several years, the UNC nutrition epidemiologists found that even unmarried cohabiting lovebirds pack on the pounds. Read: Living Apart: The Key To Wedded Bliss?

Unfair, isn't it? But wait. It gets even more unfair. The study found that unmarried women living in sin for up to five years face a 63% increased chance of obesity while their male counterparts face no increased risk at all.

And it just gets worse over time. As Penny Gordon-Larsen, one of the two authors of the study, told Time magazine: "With women, we saw incremental risk after one year. The longer she lived with a romantic partner, the more likely she was to put on weight."  Read: 50% Of Women Regret Marrying Their Husbands

The big question, of course, is: Where does all this weight come from? After questioning 1,293 couples for a separate part of the study, Gordon-Larsen and the study's lead author, Natalie The, have some ideas. Among them: That mealtime (and thus, eating) might become more important for couples living together than for people living alone; that working out might become less of a priority after tying the knot; and that, well, maybe after all the prepping to fit into a size six on the wedding day, people just let themselves go.

On top of that, scientists have known for a while that obesity is socially contagious. In other words, if you spend time with people who carry a few extra pounds — whether they're your husband or your friends — it becomes easier/more acceptable for you to do the same. Read: Weight Loss Lessens ED Risk

But there's a flip side to this last part that bodes well for cohabiting couples. It also seems that fitness is contagious. In a University of Connecticut study she conducted last year, Amy Gorin found that when one half of a married couple participates in a weight-loss program, the other half loses an average of five pounds.

Personally, we can't think of a better reason to have our husbands go to the gym.

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  • Mommy's Avatar
    Posted by Mommy Mon Jul 6, 2009 9:02am PDT

    I know for sure that my husband gained weight....when I was pregnant he ate more then me and now he still sits and eats! Its commical when people who haven't seen him in a while come up to him and say wow you have gotten fat and he says oh it bc when she was pregnant I ate all the time! I laugh and say yeah but the baby is 2 so what's your excuse now? I do workout and beg him to workout w me but he doesn't want to! It's ok though bc he was way to skinny before and he is by no means obese or close...he just looks normal! I do see with several couples the weight gain!!! It just means you're comfortable!

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  • another hockey fan's Avatar
    Posted by another hockey fan Mon Jul 6, 2009 9:25am PDT

    Um, yeah, how sexist to say the men should go to the gym? I realize it was kind of a joke, but still...I'm a woman and I found that offensive. Last I checked, men don't have kids so the weight gain isn't the same (assuming they are not overweight to begin with). How about both couples going to the gym and/or both being health conscious enough to care about how they look (NOT for society to judge) and take care of themselves. I am on my second marriage and much older now so keeping my weight and health under control is more challenging and I do work out at least four days a week. I think my hubby has lost some weight but for the most part, he eats what I eat so that's helped him too.

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  • pwsgirl's Avatar
    Posted by pwsgirl Mon Jul 6, 2009 10:35am PDT

    First of all, I find this article kind of silly. Is this supposed to help those who don't want to marry justify their views? If you don't want to get married, for whatever reason, that's your business and your right. But don't make marriage look so doggone negative all the time. My husband was heavy-set when I met him, lost a lot of weight, and has now--21 years later--put a lot of it back on. And you know what? I love him more today than ever. I didn't marry him for his physical appearance. He does jog every day, but his metabolism is such that he has difficulty maintaining a lower weight. As for myself, I have always been small. So, I say, take the article with a grain of salt.

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  • Mary Frei's Avatar
    Posted by Mary Frei Mon Jul 6, 2009 3:09pm PDT

    My husband promptly gained 35 lbs after we got married. We've been married for 9 months now and he is finally starting to take off some of the weight he put on. His excuse for gaining? He changed jobs when we got married from one where he was on his feet all day to a desk job with no exercise.

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  • Dubs's Avatar
    Posted by Dubs Mon Jul 6, 2009 3:09pm PDT

    Reading this article made me fat. I mean if I am not willing to commit myself toward the idea of stuffing this eclair in my mouth and let it sit here going to waist how would I enjoy it? So by reading this article telling me that its ok to not eat the eclair because I might get fat while simultaneously affirming that If I eat the eclair and get fat I can blame it on my SO for not getting me to go jogging with her?

    Gotta love these articles that seem to stress the lack of initiative and personal accountability....*munch munch*..but..hey...*munch*....whatever works for you....You all totally just made me finish that eclair....it's SO YOUR FAULT!

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  • Eliza's Avatar
    Posted by Eliza Tue Jul 7, 2009 6:05pm PDT

    LOL!! OMG! My husband blames me for his weight gain b/c of the fact that when I was preggo he wld eat when I wld eat....which was basically all day. But now that my babies are older (a 2 yr old and 7 month old) we are starting to exercise more and eat healthier foods. So I guess it does cause weight gain but the fun part is losing it together.

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  • tweet's Avatar
    Posted by tweet Wed Jul 8, 2009 2:32pm PDT

    YES!!!!!!

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  • Shirley's Avatar
    Posted by Shirley Thu Jul 9, 2009 12:37pm PDT

    Life needs passion.

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  • Nils's Avatar
    Posted by Nils Mon Jul 13, 2009 9:23am PDT

    This seemed kinda ridiculous at first but the more I thought about it the more it made perfect sense!

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  • ElizabethB's Avatar
    Posted by ElizabethB Mon Jul 13, 2009 9:35am PDT

    I just eat more. When I was alone, I basically lived off broccoli, chicken nuggets, and yogurt. Now we have full meals. Consequently, I've gained more weight too. But that's not that bad since I run 4-5x a week and run a total of 15-20miles a week. So I'm healthy, active and hungry. My DH says he hates it when I train for long races because I eat more and he eats more too.

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