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Friday, December 11, 2009

Does Marriage Make You Fat?

Just in case you needed another reason not to get married, scientists at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill (UNC) have come up with a big one: marriage makes you fat. And not just a little bit. According to their research, married people are twice as likely to become obese as those who are merely dating.

We know what you're thinking: In that case, why not just shack up and not get married?

Oh, if only it were that easy.

After following the weight and relationship status of 6,949 individuals for several years, the UNC nutrition epidemiologists found that even unmarried cohabiting lovebirds pack on the pounds. Read: Living Apart: The Key To Wedded Bliss?

Unfair, isn't it? But wait. It gets even more unfair. The study found that unmarried women living in sin for up to five years face a 63% increased chance of obesity while their male counterparts face no increased risk at all.

And it just gets worse over time. As Penny Gordon-Larsen, one of the two authors of the study, told Time magazine: "With women, we saw incremental risk after one year. The longer she lived with a romantic partner, the more likely she was to put on weight."  Read: 50% Of Women Regret Marrying Their Husbands

The big question, of course, is: Where does all this weight come from? After questioning 1,293 couples for a separate part of the study, Gordon-Larsen and the study's lead author, Natalie The, have some ideas. Among them: That mealtime (and thus, eating) might become more important for couples living together than for people living alone; that working out might become less of a priority after tying the knot; and that, well, maybe after all the prepping to fit into a size six on the wedding day, people just let themselves go.

On top of that, scientists have known for a while that obesity is socially contagious. In other words, if you spend time with people who carry a few extra pounds — whether they're your husband or your friends — it becomes easier/more acceptable for you to do the same. Read: Weight Loss Lessens ED Risk

But there's a flip side to this last part that bodes well for cohabiting couples. It also seems that fitness is contagious. In a University of Connecticut study she conducted last year, Amy Gorin found that when one half of a married couple participates in a weight-loss program, the other half loses an average of five pounds.

Personally, we can't think of a better reason to have our husbands go to the gym.

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  • Melanie's Avatar
    Posted by Melanie Mon Jul 13, 2009 11:38am PDT

    My husband and I both gained weight when we got together; it was all those date nights and bottles of falling-in-love vino! Thankfully, we've both just gone through boot camp and we're starting to see some results. I don't know any couples who haven't gained weight when they got together so at least the weight loss (when you finally do it) is catchy!

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  • LoveN's Avatar
    Posted by LoveN Mon Jul 13, 2009 1:02pm PDT

    I used to work out with my ex all the time. It was a great way to spend time together & get in shape at the same time. On the flip side, I also dated someone who was a couch potato and totally fell into those habits. In my current relationship, I try to keep myself in order regardless of what he's doing and I find that works better for both of us in the long run! He sees that exercise makes me happy & that I"m willing to do something whether or not he does. Double benefit.

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  • AndyB's Avatar
    Posted by AndyB Mon Jul 13, 2009 1:51pm PDT

    but how does this compare to singles during the same time frame? don't the majority of people as they age tend to put on the lbs?? good to know that fitness in contagious but depends on who is the dominating force in the relationship!

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  • bookwrm531's Avatar
    Posted by bookwrm531 Mon Jul 13, 2009 2:51pm PDT

    I noticed this trend happening in couples, married or not, who are together for a long time. It's just a sign of becoming comfortable with your significant other. I mean, sure if it becomes a health problem, do something. But for the most part, getting old and fat together is kinda endearing. :P

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  • Kayda's Avatar
    Posted by Kayda Tue Jul 14, 2009 8:02am PDT

    I guess it makes sense that you're not as focused on looking good once you've settled down. At least that means he/she isn't preening for someone else!

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  • jed's Avatar
    Posted by jed Tue Jul 14, 2009 8:11am PDT

    Basically when people live together they end up sharing the same habits. Hopefully this can be used in a healthy way rather than an unhealthy way. But it's easy to slip into unhealthy habits when you have a partner in crime.

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  • Mylie's Avatar
    Posted by Mylie Wed Jul 15, 2009 8:40am PDT

    More and more evidence against getting married.

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  • Jonny's Avatar
    Posted by Jonny Thu Jul 16, 2009 10:45am PDT

    Wait. Women (and men) let themselves go after getting into full-time relationships? I have never heard of anything like that in my entire life. Shocking.

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  • Kevin's Avatar
    Posted by Kevin Fri Jul 17, 2009 8:21am PDT

    I think being married is the BEST reason to maintain a healthy lifestyle. You owe it to each other.

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  • K.E.'s Avatar
    Posted by K.E. Sun Jul 19, 2009 10:19pm PDT

    It's so hard to stay thin when you're in a relationship...I need to marry a health nut.

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