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Friday, December 11, 2009

Does This Move Guarantee The Big O?

The Venus Butterfly. It made its debut on TV legal drama LA Law, when—during the 1986 Thanksgiving episode—script writers Steven Bochco and Terry Louise Fisher referred to a mysterious sex technique that guarantees a woman endless, repeated climaxes. The day after Thanksgiving the media was buzzing with talk of the trick, and every loving couple across the nation was wondering how to do it. But hey, it's just an urban myth, right?

Maybe... maybe not. Ever since that fateful day, sexologists, therapists and writers have made attempted to define this holy grail of sex acts. So does it exist? And if so, does it work? Orgasm For An Hour (Yes, We're Serious)

The first step to finding out: look at the literature. Many sex manuals and websites offer suggestions, though none with researched evidence. There's a deal of variation, but the common thread seems to be that he needs to touch both her clitoris and her vagina together—then add in anal stimulation. As a sexologist, that makes perfect sense to me. Most women don't get off on vaginal penetration alone; we need clitoral stimulation from our beloved. Can You Orgasm From Intercourse Alone?

And insertion is also not only physically powerful—it's emotionally satisfying as well, particularly if it reaches our wonderful G-spot. Combining clitoral and G-spot stimulation is going to deliver a delicious combination of two kinds of climax, while an additional point of stimulation will at worst enhance and at best supply yet another variety of orgasm. And your partner touching three intimate pleasure points is bound to increase closeness—both corporeal and spiritual. 

But this is theory. Do the suggestions work in practice? My second step was talking to real couples who have tried the technique.

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  • allee's Avatar
    Posted by allee Sat Jul 25, 2009 3:21am PDT

    ummm yeah. Now I know the name of what I already know works. hehehe.

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  • Rebecca G's Avatar
    Posted by Rebecca G Sat Jul 25, 2009 5:04am PDT

    lets not forget nipple stimulation also. Does one man possess the capabilities to stimulate all of these areas at once?

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  • KittyKat's Avatar
    Posted by KittyKat Sat Jul 25, 2009 5:35am PDT

    Yea playing with the nipple usually works for me along with going down on that spot.

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  • AndyB's Avatar
    Posted by AndyB Sat Jul 25, 2009 12:59pm PDT

    wow - that is a LOT of action at one time. i'd love if any takers would come forward and report on the veracity of this technique. any one?

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  • Melissa's Avatar
    Posted by Melissa Sat Jul 25, 2009 2:47pm PDT

    Not so sure about this -- seems too good to be true.

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  • Phoenix's Avatar
    Posted by Phoenix Sat Jul 25, 2009 4:42pm PDT

    Allee,

    I didn't realize it had a name either! Yes, it most definitely works. ; )

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  • Melanie's Avatar
    Posted by Melanie Sat Jul 25, 2009 5:33pm PDT

    Isn't something like this going to be based on each individual and not necessarily some technique? I mean someone can be great in bed and if you can't relax chances are you're not having a BIG O. Holy Grail... I just don't buy it.

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  • K.E.'s Avatar
    Posted by K.E. Sat Jul 25, 2009 9:01pm PDT

    so curious to try this one!!!!!

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  • Mylie's Avatar
    Posted by Mylie Sat Jul 25, 2009 10:54pm PDT

    Nipple stimulation is so the best! If he can manage to suck on them and do it, he gets a A-plus from me.

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  • kato's Avatar
    Posted by kato Sat Jul 25, 2009 11:48pm PDT

    Capabilities to stimulate all areas at once? Very, Very possible.

    Didnt know they had a name for it..lol

    Notorous Romantic...

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