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Tuesday, February 9, 2010

doubt

after an insane yr, im still here...the big question is why am i here? is it than im afraid to go? it doesnt feel that way. is it that i have no where to go? maybe, its a big possibilty...

i am taking classes at the local college and im soon going to graduate. i feel i fought so hard for my degree, that it isnt fair to leave specially being this close to the finish line...but my life with my husband is definetely over...i dont trust him, he doesnt seem to care, even though he insists he does but theres no proof. he still disappears or stays up all night...last night i found him using his phone at 3 am...unless something has happened i dont see why u are going to be using the phone that late.

last yr he ended up in rehab for abusing prescription pills because he had a back condition. after he got out, he had surgery and he is suppose to be doing some exercises which i dont think he is doing them. he stay, after surgery, with my parents for a month then he came back and we had a horribleee fight, were he destroyed a door inside our house, he tored it down. i had to call the cops, and this isnt the first time either...he ran!!! his parents angry at me (again) because i call the cops, it is soooo wrong of me to do so....oh well!! i bet if it was their daughter then its ok, and how horrible the ex husband was since she had to call the cops. but since its me, oh my, im a MONSTER!!!

i really feel this is over!!! if i had an spare room, i would ask him to use it...he is barely here anyways!!! i identify with the movie revolutionary rd, my sister thinks that girl was crazy, i think i feel just like her. trap in a fake marriage, trap in a city, in a house, in this life...this cant be it for me!!! i refuse to be it!!!

maybe i misunderstood the movie, maybe i should see it again, but thats how i feel anyways, movie or not, i feel trap!!! i dont want to be trap...when im away with my kids or here with my kids, i love it. we have so much fun!! and he is never around. even my kids are use to it, it seems...my daugther no longer feels sad or her grades go down because he isnt here....she would ask where is daddy, i would say, dont know, and she would answer ok and either go do something or say lets watch a show or play a game, or read or go to the park...we're always doing something together anyways...

im afraid im so involved with school and my kids im forgetting me...am i supposed to try and fix things with my husband? is this the right thing to do? or simply who cares whats right but whats really for me???

at the moment i dont really know what i want anymore...i lost the feeling it seems, i lost myself in the mess....i need to find myself again...i need to know what to do...

thanks for listening and for your thoughts...i needed to express myself ...and to hear what others that arent my friends and family think...


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  • Jeff's Avatar
    Posted by Jeff Fri Mar 20, 2009 8:32pm PDT

    MY NAME IF JEFF,AND I WOULD LIKE TO BE YOUR FRIEND?

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  • Samantha's Avatar
    Posted by Samantha Sat Mar 21, 2009 12:20am PDT

    I think i kinda know what you are going though, I am 18 years old and my boyfriend want to get married but i am 4 months for graduating high school and i have already applied to attend a college near my home. He is in the air force and i know that if we do marry that means my parents wont help me anymore with money and with the economy im terrified, but i feel like if i don't go with him i will be making a mistake and i feel trapped same as you but the best advice that i can give you is that you need to do what makes you happy and everything will fall in to place but do what you need to be happy first and your daughter will understand and in the long haul might be happier too.

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  • Maria's Avatar
    Posted by Maria Sat Mar 21, 2009 11:58am PDT

    Dont feel alone!! Most of me best friends are in the same situation including i... Even thought his hardly there physicaly your probably scare that once you end the relationship you wont have a male support (a man) in your life. Theres a saying in my mexican culture that saids

    IT BETTER TO BE ALONE THEN TO HAVE BAD COMPANY,,, (it sound better in spanish) which mean if your unhappy with the people that surrounds you your better off on your own and with your kids that im sure will appreciat a stronger more confident singel mom...

    Dont let no one put you down and keep your head held high

    You deserve it after all you have put up with this fool for awhile.

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  • Romina's Avatar
    Posted by Romina Sun Mar 22, 2009 9:18am PDT

    thanks maria, thanks samantha for the advice, i really needed it...i think i saw what i need to do before, but just didnt do it...

    but definetely, mejor sola que mal acompanada!!!!

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