Fed up Frustrated and Leaving

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  Posted by newageknight Thu Jun 4, 2009 6:14pm PDT

  My reason makes perfect sense. I'm tired of the negativity. I can no longer stand it and I'm doing what I always tell people to do. I'm getting out before it drives me crazy.

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  Posted by allyoucaneat Thu Jun 4, 2009 11:05pm PDT

  You can't understand the pain some people are going through. they don't want to be angry, they cry out for help anywhere they can. So it's either your way or no way.

  Just listening to someone who wants to let it out helps them more than any advice you can give, Be sympathetic instead of judgmental.

  To try and seem as wise as you think you are, you are the one who is a hypocritical, judgmental. quitter, who has it all figured out.

  I had you pegged wrong.

  There are angry, bitter people who have been hurt, some of these people do not know how to deal with these feelings, but at least they are trying by coming on hear listening to know it all's.

  By being a cry baby quitter, you are being what you don't want to tolerate.

  Once you realize you are not perfect or have all the answers, maybe you should seek advice.

  Sorry if I seem brutal, but I lose respect quitters. Rick

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  Posted by newageknight Fri Jun 5, 2009 12:46am PDT

  Sorry that you feel you had me pegged wrong. I've spent my life listening and I'm tired of people that don't want to listen to reason. You see it as quitting I see it as refusing to continue to indulge in behavior that is harmful to me. I understand the pain a little too well. That's part of the problem. It's not about my way or the highway, it's about me simply not being strong enough to handle it. I'm not just sympathetic, I'm empathic and I absorb that negativity. So much so that it makes me physically ill sometimes.

  It hurts to come on here and see all of this pain directed at people who don't deserve it by people who can't come up with a better way to get over their pain. I've got people in my real world who need me and I need to learn that I can't save the entire world. That is what this is.

  If I seem judgmental that is not my intent. As for being a hypocrite, I've always advocated leaving a situation that is emotionally damaging. This is me following through on what I always suggest to do. Think me a quitter if you wish.

  Thank you for your post Rick.

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  Posted by snow bunny Fri Jun 5, 2009 4:19am PDT

  I think I understand what you're saying & why you're leaving. It's very draining to see groups of people stop sharing friendship & turn it into an insult fest. No one seems willing to see the others' sides. I've tried to stay out of the drama, with some success. I don't know how long I can stay on Shine the way things are. It really hurts my heart to see former friends lashing out at each other, usually without asking for clarification of an issue.

  I wish you the best in your life. You have to take care of yourself and your real life. Snow***

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  Posted by Sue Fri Jun 5, 2009 4:34am PDT

  I think we all forget, we made the choices, to make us feel all emotions mentioned. Stop acting like it was all done to us. You made the choice to be where your at. Buck up to your choices.

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  Posted by another hockey fan Fri Jun 5, 2009 6:55am PDT

  I think you are taking it too personally unless you speak of people you actually know. It is difficult to see people not listen or continue to repeat bad behavior, but before you continue to be frustrated by all this remember you cannot make the final choices for these people. All you can do is offer support. Most people (I think) don't really take other's advice. They may take parts of it, but for the most part a lot of people create their own drama and then want other's to believe they don't want to be in the situation for attention purposes. I said this in another post but I truly believe most of the population comes from dysfunction and until they stop blaming others exclusively and/or own up to what is wrong within each of themselves, the cycle will never end.

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  Posted by newageknight Fri Jun 5, 2009 7:43am PDT

  another hockey fan I appreciate your comment. I've seen a few of your posts and you seem to have a decent head on your shoulders. As for the dysfunctional nature of people, I'm well aware of that. That's actually another part of this. I made the decision to come here. Now I've realized that it brought unnecessary drama to my life and it's time to remove said source of drama.

  Thanks.

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  Posted by Kerby Fri Jun 5, 2009 6:03pm PDT

  I think you are doing the right thing. I have been hurt and abused by the "love of my life" so many times that I now finally see how many people are just like her here. I won't subject myself to that anymore and if it is damaging you or your relationships, then go!

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  Posted by newageknight Fri Jun 5, 2009 6:38pm PDT

  It's mostly that I'm tired of feeling abused by a select group of people here. I'm glad you see my point however.

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  Posted by allyoucaneat Fri Jun 5, 2009 8:41pm PDT

  I do see your point, you sound intelligent enough, BUT, I don't like using cliches and all that stuff but in this case I will.

  You can not have positivity without negativity! If you connect two positive cables to your car battery, It's going to blow up in your face......if you put batteries in your game boy, both facing positive, it will not work. Humans and animals are made up of the same atoms found in batteries and electricity.

  Electrons are what tells our brain which hand to move or what to say, and even to breath.

  You can't live with one without the other.

  And If you want to only compare it to personalities, you can't know positive without negative.

  How can you even say you are a positive person when you refuse to see negativity?

  That's all I gotta say about that.

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