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Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Foreplay Anyone?

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For many couples, sex is a well-orchestrated event. You get into bed, you both know what you're supposed to do, and it happens. Maybe you even get a regular orgasm out of it — after all, that's one of the benefits of monogamous sex. But on some level, it's just missing something. The spark of unpredictability has gone out and been replaced by the slow simmer of satisfactory repetition. Over and over again.

Time to mix it up! While feeling comfortable and knowing what floats each other's boat is great, you don't want to get stuck in a rut. Even if you can orgasm together in five minutes, there is something to be said for 45 minutes of delicious tension. Many couples find they must make a conscious decision to get back to foreplay: It's one of the best ways to stir up the sexual routine.

In fact, it's helpful if you can make a game out of it. Tell your partner you want him to tease you until you are begging for it (or have him dare you that you can't do the same to him). Pick up a new book of tips and techniques and spend an evening reading it together. Once you get back in the foreplay groove, you won't want to remember how you had sex without it.

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  • curiously's Avatar
    Posted by curiously Sat Oct 17, 2009 10:47am PDT

    Hi, Diana. Very very nice words. Exactly this way I believed too. I meant, you tell her a poetry, you read some books... and ... you give her some flowers ... If you say that the rest of "staff" is meaningless and not important (only a rut), then why some people are just with, only and exclusively with the most important things in life like ... poetries and books when the another one do the rest of ... you know... "less important" staff? :-)

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  • Lorrie's Avatar
    Posted by Lorrie Sat Oct 17, 2009 2:13pm PDT

    Hi Diana

    You hit the nail on the head, mixing it up keeps the passion and romance alive in a relationship. Don't be afraid to be playful and flirty with your partner. Be open to trying something new that you might just find out that you like it, and most guys get really turned on knowing that they are turning you on.

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  • LaToya's Avatar
    Posted by LaToya Sat Oct 17, 2009 6:48pm PDT

    Hey Diana

    This is exactly what happened to me. Even if you know what's going to turn me on or even if I know what's going to turn him on its always nice to be unpredictable! That does add excitement and a kick of spice to the sex, although the regular routine still is pleasurable.

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  • Mohammed's Avatar
    Posted by Mohammed Sun Oct 18, 2009 10:41am PDT

    hi lady hwant you

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