Getting ready to Marry any Advice?

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  Posted by springtime Sun Jul 6, 2008 4:49pm PDT

  Choose your battles. Before getting your panties in a wad, ask yourself...do I really care if he forgot to take the trash out again? But most important, don't let the daily grind of living take the magic out of your relationship. Always make time for fun. When you're old and gray, still go on dates. Best of luck to you and your guy... I'm wishing you both a lifetime of rainbows. Oh.. one more thing. Oh yes... men can change diapers!!!

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  Posted by TANYA Sun Jul 6, 2008 5:01pm PDT

  I think it's great that you guys are getting married...but it's important that you talk about kids, and whats his views as far as kids and whats your's. Kids are great, but at the same time they're a handfull and sometimes they cause you to argue, so make sure you guys have the same point if view....i wish you guys the best....

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  Posted by Shameka Gant Sun Jul 6, 2008 5:08pm PDT

  Sprintime is right pick and choose you're battles.The first year is hard because you're still getting to know him and his still geting to know you don't let people give you advice who has never been married and talk to everyone about what's going on in you're home because some people don't want to see you happy. Make sure you both put GOD first in you're marrage.Have conversation time to were you and him are talking to each other about differnt things without any distractions.always tell him that you love him and you thank GOD for him and also pray togatherbut never forget you make time for you.I've been married for 12 years now and i'am still learning things about my husband but I love him and I thank GOD for him he is a great man and he treats me like a queen So good luck and GOD blesse.

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  Posted by Reason Mon Jul 7, 2008 11:39am PDT

  I'm 24 years old (husband 24) and I've been happily married for a year and a half! Always try to keep it exciting! Dates when you are married is so much fun! Explore no things with each other! My husband and I make it our business to have heart to heart conversations at least once a month sometimes more! It just to talk about what is working and what we need to work on, kids and setting goals stuff like that. 7 years together you probably really know each other especially if you guys lived together... after being together that long walking down the aisle doesn't necessarily change things in my opinion and thats where people mess up! Good Luck and I wish you and your husband a lifetime of happiness!!!!!

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  Posted by mrs. Mon Jul 7, 2008 5:10pm PDT

  that is a wonderful thing and congratulations to you guys all you have to do now is stick closer by his side

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  Posted by L Tue Jul 8, 2008 10:38am PDT

  Good luck with everything! Right now my husband and I of 10 years are having problems (that we are working through). Read this book togehter - its great:

  Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Committment by Gay Hendricks and Kathlyn Hendricks (Paperback - Jan 1, 1992)

  Only wish I had heard of it years ago! Best wishes!

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  Posted by SoonToBeMrs. Tue Jul 8, 2008 1:42pm PDT

  Thanks you guys so much for all your comments and advice I will make sure I keep them all in mind.

  Thanks

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  Posted by v Wed Jul 9, 2008 11:51am PDT

  My husband and I also said no divorce, yet we are getting ready to do just that. I really believe that men under 35 are not eligible husbands, it's just something about that age, for most men. Then again everyone is different, I think you should get some relationship counseling together and separately. And never forget that there is no right way to solve an issue,and learn the art of compromise. Good luck!!

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