OK! So a few years ago on myspace, I received a friend request from
a male (Let's call him R)... He was a good looking guy who
happened to go to the same HS as I. Now, I went to a pretty big
school in Miami, Fl. so I never knew this guy. We even graduated in
the same class, but my class had over 1000 kids! Anyhow, he's a
very good looking tall, dark guy. We emailed each other, and
he wanted to hangout, but we never did because at the time I had a
bf.
Now, I have him as a friend on Facebook. A couple of years
later, I don't have a bf. Last night he msgs me and we chat....
He says we should hang out some time but no funny business because
he has a girlfriend. Immediately, my response to him was that I
didn't feel comfortable in doing so, because I didn't want
to disrespect his girl... he said they trust each other very much,
and also said his best friend of many many years is actually a
female, and said it would be cool because he knows me from
highschool. I never knew the guy, never had him for a class.
Don't even remember seeing him. Now, he was pretty persistant
in wanting to hang out.
I personally feel a man or woman in a relationship has no business
hanging out with someone of the opposite sex. My opinion is that
when friendships are formed between a man and woman, eventually 1
of the 2 or both will catch feelings for the other. Even so, when
someone has a friend of the opposite sex, out of respect for you
BF/GF there shouldn't be any outings alone. Again, that's
my opinion. Now, I find it odd that he was persistant about
us hanging out. See, if we were highschool buddies, then I
wouldn't have a problem with it... Although we went to the same
school and graduated the same year, i never knew this guy...
And he is a nice guy who is very attractive... And Im also an
attractive woman. Now, I'm not asking for advise on what to
do... I'm grown enough to figure that out. I just feel that
maybe he wants to see how far he can get.... What do you think?
Guy with girlfriend wants to hang out! Hmmm
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Posted by Thu Oct 22, 2009 11:27am PDT
Report AbuseTrust your gut on this one. Something seems fishy to me. Sounds like you are a bright person who has your head on right. I agree with you too that if you have a bf/gf, you shouldn't be hanging out with the opposite sex unless the bf/gf are aware and agree to it. Maybe you should ask him point blank why he has a need to hang out with you even though you don't know each other very well. I think he is up to something and my bet is his gf has no clue.
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Posted by Thu Oct 22, 2009 1:08pm PDT
Report AbuseOh don't do it!!! Please do not do it!!!
Not to long ago i was in a situation that included my husband and a "friend". Please do not put his girlfriend or yourself through this. I haven't been the same since.
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Posted by Fri Oct 23, 2009 1:34pm PDT
Report Abuse? for you, why did you friend him on FB if you don't remember him of want to hang out with him- whats the point ?? Just want to say "hey i have 500 friends" its dumb.
If you had no intrest in being friends and yes guys and girls can be just friends why not hit delete next time some guy you don't even know requests you. What he is asking is not strange-what you are doing is.
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Posted by Tue Oct 27, 2009 5:31am PDT
Report Abuseluvbug has a point. you might be triggering games whether you realize it or not. plus the guy might straight up be a player and lookin for ass. keep your distance, see what happens if you want to remain his friend. who knows, you might end up being together, but now isnt the time. just wait it out.
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Posted by Fri Oct 30, 2009 11:17am PDT
Report AbuseWell I accepted him because we went to the same highschool... Im not those types who accepts anyone just to say "hey i have 500 friends"... And to be honest I find him attractive. Now I question his motives, because he's the one with the girlfriend, and is persuing in wanting to hang out with me? How are my actions strange? as far as men and women being friends, I'm a grown woman, and I know what can come of these situations. Now I'm not saying that it will be mutual, but in the long run, someone catches feelings, especially if you already are attracted to the person.
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