Happy Marriage Secret = Separate Beds?

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  Posted by Customstep Thu Sep 10, 2009 6:08pm PDT

  I can understand why this has logic. Me being a passion driven person I think that sometimes arguments are a part of a healthy relationship. The need for us to express our selves is paramount. I would rather be single than bare a relationship that lacks the simple sensual pleasures of the physical tough of another. My grandparents were just as loving and playfull after 53 years as newly weds sure they had their moments. Relationships are about forgiveness and understanding not about seperation and comfort. Sounds selfish to me.

  Stephen D

  P.S. And a whole lot of love.

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  Posted by Claudia Fri Sep 11, 2009 7:56am PDT

  lol i guess i can say i cant sleep if my husband isnt in the bed with me. its hard. I rather fight and sleep then be happy and not sleep lol.

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  Posted by Ahleah G Fri Sep 11, 2009 9:33am PDT

  I can see why it may work for some people. But I don't sleep well by myself - it takes me forever to fall asleep! And I really value the nightime snuggle time and closeness I get.

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  Posted by Katie B Fri Sep 11, 2009 9:45am PDT

  Hm... then what explains my grandparents? They have slept in the same bed together for well over 50 years now...

  Ahleah.. I hear you... I have only been married a little over a year now and it's hard for me to sleep by myself.. I will sleep on the couch when my husband is out on business trip.

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  Posted by MyaDee Fri Sep 11, 2009 9:50am PDT

  My hubby and I have seperate beds, but in the same room. It became necessary after I had serious back surgery and could move very well. But even after I healed, but both realized we really like our own little space to sleep it. We are still right next to each other, but we don't fight over the covers and we don't roll over on, or bump in to, each other during the night. We sleep peacefully and well. And it means we are in better moods and more apt to cuddle on the couch or before we fall asleep.

  It is a fabulous solution for us.

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  Posted by Shiv Fri Sep 11, 2009 10:10am PDT

  My parents have been sleeping in different beds, different rooms, and different floors in our house since last year. My dad has intestinal issues, so sleeping in a flat bed keeps him up all night and in pain. The solution for them is that my dad sleeps in the living room on the chair and my mom sleeps upstairs in their bed. I honestly haven't noticed as much disagreements going on between them and they seem to even be a little happier. My mom stays up late watching her food network or girly shows whereas my dad gets to surf the free movies on demand. They're still really happy and my dad is more healthy too.

  I guess it's meant for some people and not for others, and either way it depends on the situation.

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  Posted by josiej Fri Sep 11, 2009 11:03am PDT

  I personally enjoy my sleep space so does my partner, as I am a cover hog, I snore and tend to end up smack dab in the middle of the bed!!!

  Cuddling and falling asleep is great, but when one wakes up, it's ok to move to another bed or the couch with no hurt feelings!

  That's the best of both worlds!

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  Posted by Yvonne Fri Sep 11, 2009 11:03am PDT

  hey i think that if your gonna sleep in seperate beds you might as well sleep in seperate homes thats whats gonna happen eventually....................

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  Posted by StacyMaeFox Fri Sep 11, 2009 12:18pm PDT

  My in-laws have their own separate bedrooms...I think its hilarious! My husband and I sleep in the same bed and I couldn't imagine it any other way. We actually have trouble sleeping without the other person there.

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  Posted by VS Fri Sep 11, 2009 12:37pm PDT

  getting a king size bed for the same reason

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