Have you been touched by guys, inappropriately?: Here are 3 Inappropriate Touches Guys Should Avoid

My closest friends know that I dress pretty conservatively even when I’m going out to a party. You could say that I am the Charlotte of Sex and the City, who takes a tad bit more risks with fashion. That is always going to be my thing; I don’t want everyone seeing all my goods even if they’re firm and fabulous. This brings my first defense of why I don’t dress so provocatively because it IS a sure way to get attention you don’t want. And of course the guy is thinking this woman dressed like this wants some kind of attention let me try.

Women remember if you dress the part don’t get mad when you get disrespected. Although guys may go a bit far in going out of their way to approach you, you can’t be mad for their efforts. Basically, tuck it in or don’t complain when you get hit on by all kind of men ALL night.

Now, when it comes to social gatherings whether it’s a club or networking event, I’m going to go for the experience. Most my close friends know that I’m open to a lot of things to broaden my experiences. With that said, yes, I love going out amidst the dancing, laughing talking etc, I “people watch”. I guess you could call me a cultural anthropologist. However, here is another rant I have to add to the list of things that irk me about guys trying to approach me.

INAPPROPRIATE TOUCHING
There are several occasions where I’ve been touched in passing even just standing that were totally uncalled for. Guys, as mentioned in my previous note if you don’t win the eye gazing game or she isn’t swooned by the outlandish compliments, she is NOT interested. However, some guys like to be persistent and go out of their way to get your attention physically. As I mentioned earlier about the clubs and parties, it’s understood that guys are going to go all out to do things for you in hopes to get to the next level. This “all out” includes the “hand grab”. There are two hand grabs that I want to mention here:

LIGHT TUG and THE SCORPION GRAB

LIGHT TUG

This is the hand grab from a guy grabbing a female’s hand in hopes that a she will be delighted and let him lead her into an exciting introduction. This hand grab has been done to me everyw

here from work to a party. Recently, this was done to me at work on my way to another building. The hand grab is almost always done as a guy walks halfway pass a female or almost behind. The guy does the FB Scan. The “Full Body Scan” is when the guy scans a female completely front and back and assesses from what he sees and goes for it.

I’m guessing after this particular guy actually walked passed me enough to see my whole body he decided to grab my hand. This is funny to me because it shows how transparent this guy was. The hand grab is a very cute and playful gesture but still awkwardly unnecessary to me because:

1.   It’s just weird
2.   It makes a guy seems slightly desperate and overly confident because he ignores the formal introduction that includes a mutual touching of the hands a.k.a the hand shake.
3.   Most people are uptight and on guard if a stranger touches them anywhere.

This guy did this to me as I was passing through a revolving door which made me really irritated at the potential of my body being crushed by these steel doors. Off rip I’m already going to count that against him. Thankfully, this was a light hand grab because I would have been heated if I had a few cracked bones or bruises if he had used anymore force, known as the next hand grab:

THE SCORPION GRAB
This grab is reminiscent of M

ortal Kombat’s Scorpion. He does the Bloody Spear move which involves impaling his bloody spear into his opponent while saying “Get over here!” I know, I’m a bit extreme but that’s what this grab reminds me of because of the amount of force used. If you don't know what I'm talking about school yourself here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JgRpGFlcXxA
In my adulthood, though few years, I’ve had a hand full of LIGHT TUGS and very few SCORPION GRABS. This happened to me this year as I was walking through a crowd. It was funny because I had several LIGHT TUGS on my way through the crowd and a SCORPION GRAB nearly ripped my arm off. Because I’m mildly diesel, I was able to not get yanked back to the guy who did it and I was able to keep my composure in four inch heels. (Yay me!)

I did turn around to make sure it wasn’t someone I knew or I was in immediate danger, or that maybe someone fell and grabbed me on the way down. (Yes, I ran through all possibilities in those few seconds.) Noticing that it was neither of those possibilities, I yanked my hand from this guy’s tight grip as I walked to the other side of the room. This grab was wrong on so many levels. Here are a few reasons why:

1. Shows sign of potential abusive behavior
2.  Violation of common courtesy
3. Grounds for a female to call her goons for a beat down

Guys underestimate a woman’s strength or disregard and should consider because:

1. She's wearing four inch heels
2. Her drunkenness
3. She could be a lightweight (100-125lbs)

With those combinations grabbing this hard will cause embarrassment to her if she falls and maybe you when she calls her goons.

THE BOOTY GRAB
Lastly the most offensive grab:
Unless this was staged for an award show and you are Jamie Foxx, the average Joe should not attempt this grab.

This has been done to me several times. One grab that stood out was at a college party I went to wearing t-shirt and jeans. While moving through a crowd, someone did a firm grab of my butt. Of course when I turned around there were tons of people behind me but I had an idea of who did it but couldn’t prove it. My guess is the same guy who threw a tennis ball at my derriere while I was walking on campus one day…

Guys, see why women can't take you seriously when that time comes when you want to get with a female? Not going into too much detail on why this is wrong but I will say this. Guys please don’t be surprised when she attacks you or completely ignores you.

Most guys already have phobias of their hineys being touched, please use the Golden Rule here. Or better yet, the Platinum Rule (Do unto others as they want done to them) If you’re reading the Platinum Rule and thinking that “maybe" she wants that done to her then you probably won’t ever find a mate and add more reasons why women are so uptight towards men and won’t ever take you seriously.

GUYS of all these moves, which one actually has worked for you? Which one have you gotten an unexpected response from? LADIES of all these moves which one would you let slide? And which one have you cursed someone out for?