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  Posted by Philip G Thu Aug 7, 2008 12:49pm PDT

  You are a horrible person. You have repaid your husband's unconditional love by stabbing him in the back.

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  Posted by mabel5411 Thu Aug 7, 2008 12:49pm PDT

  I have the same scenario, but the only difference is that the man I am having an affair with is not married. We have been together for the last two years but now he is having remorse. He is Catholic and says that it is not right to be with a married woman (me). I have asked myself the same question. What should I do, but I can't seem to get away from him. I am trying very hard to stay away. My advise to you is, if you can keep it a secret and after having the affair you can go back home and continue with your life like nothing happened, then you are fine, but if you are wanting him to stay with you forever then stay away. You will not be the only one hurt. It really hurts.

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  Posted by justme Thu Aug 7, 2008 12:50pm PDT

  Have enough respect for your husband and the wife of your lover to end it.

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  Posted by Angela G Thu Aug 7, 2008 12:53pm PDT

  If you're going to cheat on your husband, divorce him. If you don't want to divorce him then stop cheating. It isn't fair to him. You have a family think about them and not yourself. It's women like you who make us all look bad. Take care of your kids first.

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  Posted by mykk Thu Aug 7, 2008 12:58pm PDT

  Please leave this man and go back to your husband. Not only are you destroying your own family but you are a home breaker for the other woman's family as well. Not everything is about feeling good, do the right thing and stop being selfish.

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  Posted by emharris82 Thu Aug 7, 2008 1:17pm PDT

  My advice to you is to stop having the affair. Even if the two of you could be together, you would never be able to trust each other. You should also break things off with your husband. You obviously have no love or respect for him, and you aren't happy with him. If you were, you wouldn't be cheating on him. Imagine how you would feel if you found out that he was doing the same thing.

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  Posted by mike11876 Thu Aug 7, 2008 1:20pm PDT

  I cannot believe what I am reading!! "If you can keep it a secret and after having the affair you can go back home and continue with your life like nothing happened, then you are fine" Are you f-ing kidding me? Listen lady, you are lying to yourself, your husband and your kids every day that you go on with this lie. I'm not sure how you can even look at yourself in the mirror. Your wonderful husband has done nothing to deserve your betrayal and the fact that you did this because "you missed out" or "you just clicked" even makes this post all the more disgusting. No matter what you decide to do, you deserve all of the misery and guilt that is coming your way.

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  Posted by Stormy Thu Aug 7, 2008 1:34pm PDT

  HI! Just wanted to write you BUT... not to judge you. I was married for almost 31 years the 1st time & our age was (I just turned 16 he was 19 years old. And he was a good man in so many ways. But yes SEX, was not good. I felt so emty and left into another mans arms. KNOW that if I can do that...It had to be OVER. Then feel total in LOVE with a man & his twin girls. SEX was grate. But he was abrusive, VERY over passive & did not TRUST other women. Because of his 3 other wifes leaving him by Sleeping with someone else. And not leaving after they did that. I DID. thought I could show him my 2nd husband, how much I truly LOVed HIM. But he COUNLDN'T see it. NEVER will. YOU can not change someone or help someone unless they TrueLy WHAT & WILL get help. We were only married for 2 years. Ended up in an abruse women's shelter & devorced. NOW I am picking up the pieces of my life. I have been with married men before. I did not know how to do RIGHT in my life. Now I am keeping my eyes of GOD.. and if I do right now with the rest of my life. I know I will be BLESSED by him.

  GOOD LUCK 2 - U!!!

  MY GOD BleSS YOU (Just look upon him)

  STORMY

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  Posted by Lolita Thu Aug 7, 2008 1:35pm PDT

  You disgust me! How hard is it to leave your husband and then start a relationship with someone new? Why would you subject him to this? It's very disrespectful. You should be ashamed of yourself.

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  Posted by Peggy C Thu Aug 7, 2008 1:52pm PDT

  I really feel for you, been there, done that, and it will take forever, if ever for me to recover. I was married for 27 years to a decent guy, great provider, but a real controller to the point I changed. I buried myself in my 4 kids, and as they started to all leave the next, I met someone I really clicked with...fell in love...had an affair for 3 years before my husband found out. I admitted it, asked for a divorce and he more or less set out to destroy me, him, us...long story made short, I left. There are more wounds that I can even begin to heal. I will never see the other man again, and yet, too much has happened and I can never go home, nor do i want to. I did destroy some lives, not proud of that. If there is a chance of salvaging you marriage because there is still something left, please get help and go back to you husband. If not, the problems will resurface and you will once again be unhappy. The way I see it, my affair was the result of an underlying problem, I just didn't chose the right way to handle it. Good luck, I hope it turns out the way you want it to in the end.

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