Love + Sex
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
He might be cheating if...
OK Ladies, this is my first attempt at blogging, but you need to know this! Once again, I found myself in a relationship with a cheater. Please take a look at the signs that I did not pick up on at first and if they are happening with your man, DO NOT CONFRONT HIM, but do some detective work. Here are the 10 things to look for:
- Lots of work emails at odd hours that have to be returned right away, especially on weekends when he is with you and can't talk on the phone.
- Taking phone calls outside or in another room.
- He starts taking his cell phone running or bicycling, or he now leaves it on when it used to be off during a ride or run.
- More frequent business trips, or vague details in regards to upcoming trips, such as, he can't remember the time or place for the schduled meetings.
- When he is out of town, he doesn't return your phone calls right away, or he calls you early in the evening rather than when he returns from dinner.
- He may be interested in sex, but is less romantic than before.
- He shows less interest in spending time with your family or your friends.
- He suddenly can't stand your favorite food, music, restaurants, or activities.
- He is more moody than usual or he seems to get annoyed over little things more than usual.
- He doesn't want to talk about what is bothering him or he says he is having problems at work and doesn't want to talk about them.
If these signs are present in your relationship, do not stick your head in the sand. The reason I said DO NOT CONFRONT HIM is that ALL CHEATERS WILL LIE ABOUT IT. What you need to do is check his email. Be sure to check the Sent Items folder. My man deleted from the Inbox, but forgot the Sent Items. Check his cell phone text messages. Look at his PDA. Fortunately, I had only been married six months to this creep and got him out of my life quickly. We need to let men know they can't get away with this behavior. Now if only someone could tell me how to tell if a man will do this before I marry him.....
Related: trust, lying, jealousy, infidelity, how to tell, cheating, affairs
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Posted by karen R Mon Jul 21, 2008 12:30pm PDT
i'm sorry ,you did know it . If he ever doesn't talk to u on the phone at the times he did before something is up , he is now talking to someone eles for that ,I a man thing. Most guys are dogs they need more than one girl. I know all about them just asked me
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Posted by Kellington Mon Jul 21, 2008 12:55pm PDT
I'm with someone now who cheated on me for a period of time. I knew he had dated her before, but apparently he never stopped. She continued the pursuit, despite the fact that she was married herself. At least me and my boyfriend were single. Word to the wise - it is not always the man and women can be just as ruthless. Protect yourself at all costs. Don't be dependent on anyone but yourself.
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Posted by ikeis@ymail.com Mon Jul 21, 2008 1:01pm PDT
i agree with ever statement that is made about cheaters i cought this guy i have been dating in so many lies its not funny the only thing that is important to him is the cell phone or that dam cat so i prayed on it not only is the cell phone f-up but the transportation that got him to them is f-up as well tell me am i out of the dark or is the car and phone the only thing thats keeping him here.
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Posted by JosieM111 Mon Jul 21, 2008 1:08pm PDT
I agree, don't confront, just leave.
I am sorry you were married and discovered this, but am glad to hear you got rid of him quickly - that shows you value and respect YOURSELF.
Kudos.
J.
http://www.lifeofjosiem.com
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Posted by Amy Mon Jul 21, 2008 2:32pm PDT
Honestly if you have to check the texts,the email in the first place something is up. Women trust your intuition babes. If you think somethins up it probably means there is.
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Posted by lillymiller Mon Jul 21, 2008 3:05pm PDT
As for me Im shacking up with bf and he doesnt keep his cell phone unattended. I never see it or the bill. Sure fine thats ok with me, but the reasons for this misceivous behavior is because He talks to his xgf (prior to me) every day. Earlier this month sometimes over a dozons of times a day. She usually initiating the phone calls sometimes him. I hate her. I hate him. ----- I hate myself for ever believing his lyes in the beginning. Promises promises empty promises. Ok everyone lets have a pitty party now for me! lol
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Posted by pinky240 Mon Jul 21, 2008 3:14pm PDT
Yea, I agree with all of these comments it really sucks and sad how some women and men that are even married is so willing to cheat on their spouse in heart beat. What to the morals? I think that a man is only sorry about cheating if he gets caught. Ladies, get your detective gear in place cause it is time for a stake out. It a shame we have to do this but if the feeling is not right. Do what you have to do!!!!!
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Posted by Just so you know - Mon Jul 21, 2008 3:22pm PDT
Girlfriend, you deserve better than that. Make a promise to yourself to find a different living arrangement as soon as possible, or put his things on the curb if he is living with you. You can do this!
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Posted by lillymiller Mon Jul 21, 2008 3:57pm PDT
pinky240: Yep, now thats what im talkin about. Sure is pathetic that we have to even go there with the investingations of sorts, or snooping, but If your gut tells you he's not playing fair then confirmation is required to bring one the the next level or step of eventual action.
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