He said, you never trusted me, that's why I cheated

Dated this man from Long Beach  for almost two years...first cheating incident was 6 months in the relationship...This jerk was born with the word "LIAR" tattooed on his forehead!  He left me trails and signs of cheating. Confessed after getting caught. Forgiveness followed. But respect and trust  from me are values in that relationship that he was not able to regain. I did forget the whole thing for a while. Things were hanky dori until an ex girl friend from his past (so he say) e-mailed him after Christmas. By the way, this was after he gave me a promise ring last Christmas. After discovering it, I tried to warn the girl to stay away from him because he is a big liar. Did it in good faith. Instead, she went back to him ( like he said): " I trust you and I hope that 'your ex girl'  is not some violent psychotic b---- ."

After a sweet and loving New year's eve, he woke up new years morning, in a hurry, on a foggy morning with his golf clubs. The next thing I heard from him was...I am playing golf, rushed out of his house while I was still in his bed. Next confession..."I played golf with B" (the ex- girl)...He built a whole building of lies and deceit, And the lies were so blatant that anyone who hears them will puke their stomach out. ...People he works with know that he is a player, so I was told,  
The man  also has a bizzarre personality....a violent side, a sick behavior of harboring left over food from other people from his office. OMG! Pretty dangerous thing to do. And pretty dirt cheap..  

But these behaviors did not affect me as much. OMG!!!! The cheating made me feel like worms had invaded my skin ,that I  even  stopped looking at our photos. I can smell the crap that he has put himself into. To make it worst, he will come with a drama about the other girl..." Oh, she is not my kind, not sophisticated enough, she a republican, has a kid that she is raising which I am not into, she is a catholic, and i will not make myself go to church for that, this is getting old for me, and will get pretty old because she lives in LA etc,etc"  Did I care about what was said?...So typical of a manipulative man. Sugar coating it for me did not help it...I left the guy. Begged me, and begged me to be back with him.

Before I left him, I asked? Why did you cheat? He said because you never trusted me. Like a pathetic alcoholic, he has to blame others for his mistakes. He will not take responsibilities for his own actions.

He still keeps in contact with me, Saying "I love you", sending love e-mails, etc.  I can just imagine what the other girl would feel if she reads his emails to me...oh yeah, I know her e-mail address, do I care to forward them to her? Of course not...that is a close chapter of my life now. I moved on.

I eventually dated his next door neighbor.   He was freaked out about it.  Because they are living in the same building..whether .he sees me or not...hey my life is sweet...and I am living it well.I AM FINALLY EATING MY CAKE TOO...The new guy is ten years younger than he is,  confident, strong , caring and has a lot of etiquette....Cheaters are people with sick pasts from their childhood...these old farts need some major overhaul of their brains.  But they reap what they sow. What goes around comes around....  I say I am thankful that I discover the cheating. Girls, sometimes we have to play detectives to find out. It will hurt, and that is ok...everyone gets over it,,,cheaters are losers and the biggest losers are the ones who they cheated with ....because they will suffer the circumstance too. What a sick world of cheaters....Follow your guts ladies. Listen to it when they are talking to you.. Stay away from any sign of cheating from your partner, There are plenty of big fish out there,