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Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Heat Up Your Relationship by Working Up a Sweat


Working out with your significant other can be a terrific way to intensify a relationship, but if done incorrectly, it can also do damage. Here are a few strategies to follow-and situations to avoid—the next time you hit the gym with your loved one.

Do Something New
Pick an activity that neither of you have tried; that way you'll both experience the novelty, pitfalls, and satisfaction together. If you find something that you can both do at different paces, then you don't have to worry about keeping up. Try a cycling class or sign up together for popular programs like CrossFit cycling or SPX Fitness.

Work Together
If you see your partner hitting a fitness plateau, here's your chance to jump in. Do they respond to motivational you-can-do-it cheerleader speeches or does a tough-love pep talk get their blood pumping? Finding this out is crucial for the longevity of a relationship, both in and out of the gym. Another technique that can bring you closer: Put the same playlist on your iPods and use the song changes as cues to switch up the pace. You're doing your own thing, but experiencing it together.

Take Control
Even if you're not at the same fitness level, you can still take turns planning the workout. If you both go to the gym, lead a circuit training session. If you're runners, then map out a new trail.

Don't Show Off
Being competitive is great, but nothing positive can come from gloating. The reason you're working out together is to grow the relationship in a new domain, so it doesn't matter who wins MVP.

––Rebecca Brown

Go to Shape.com for more ways to work out with your partner.

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  • Minah Jay's Avatar
    Posted by Minah Jay Thu Sep 3, 2009 6:52pm PDT

    Check out my blog and see how my boyfriend and I working out has turned sour. Advice please. http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/help-im-in-a-relationship-with-harvey-dent-508699/

    Love the ideas by the way. I am constantly seeking new things for my beau and I to do. I think that the working out things just really annoys him. He is the bodybuilder and doesn't really want to train me to be diesel like him. I wish he could train me hard but it get's too personal for me. He claims that I actually need to pay him money for him to be my personal trainer.

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