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Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Hey baby, you can serve me anyday! A discussion on Catcalling


We've all been there at some point in our life, walking down the street minding our own business when BAM! out of no where a lewd remark flies through the air right at you. It comes in all shapes and forms, from the construction worker on the street, to the college boy in the bar....the infamous catcall. Some women see it as demeaning, where others find it a bit empowering. <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/05/14/lw.catcalls/index.html">A new article on CNN.com</a> inspired by Holly Kearl's thesis on street harassment discusses both opinions, now I'd like to hear from the women on Shine.

How did a catcall experience make you feel?

Also I want to know why it's ok for "good looking" guys to do it but not for "unattractive" guys, I use quotations on those words because everyone's taste is different. Do you think that sends bad mixed messages to guys, and may even discourgage them when it comes to asking women out? And I'm talking mainly about the verbal aspect, not including the guys who fondle themselves in front of you also because we all know that is just plain creepy and wrong no matter who does it.

I'd also like to hear from the guys on Shine. How do you feel about women doing the catcalling at men?
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  • Wiary's Avatar
    Posted by Wiary Wed May 14, 2008 8:06pm PDT

    Funny thing....I never find that "good looking" guys are lame enough to cat call!

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  • anthony111142's Avatar
    Posted by anthony111142 Thu May 15, 2008 11:40am PDT

    hello i am anthony i am 35

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  • ssme007's Avatar
    Posted by ssme007 Sun May 25, 2008 2:38am PDT

    my id is ssme007@yahoo.com i wish to be intoch.

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  • ldylce69's Avatar
    Posted by ldylce69 Thu Jun 5, 2008 10:19am PDT

    Beth you are wild. See your more open minded than most women. I ran across another comment you made to someone else's blog and you are off the chain. say that again you wouldn't mind if someone else slept with your man while you were pregrant. Oh my

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  • ldylce69's Avatar
    Posted by ldylce69 Thu Jun 5, 2008 10:19am PDT

    Beth you are wild. See your more open minded than most women. I ran across another comment you made to someone else's blog and you are off the chain. say that again you wouldn't mind if someone else slept with your man while you were pregrant. Oh my

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  • Beth's Avatar
    Posted by Beth Wed Jun 11, 2008 8:21am PDT

    Haha thanks, yeah I'm a little unconventional. I view sex as just plain sex, completely seperate from love. So if for some odd strange reasons I'm not interested in sex or can't have sex then I'm perfectly find with him finding release somewhere else.

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  • Andrea Frazer, Good Housekeeping's Avatar
    Posted by Andrea Frazer, Good Housekeeping Mon Jun 23, 2008 2:40am PDT

    Hi - I just read some of yoru comments. Wow, you are way more open minded than I am on the sex front. I'm kind of stuck in the middle of very conventional thoughts and more wild ones (and actions, too, of course.)

    As for the catcalling, I hate it. I really do. It makes me feel like such an object. I don't care if the guy is cute or ugly. It's just so one dimensional. I know I'm prudish in this thinking, but sex is so much more than just a body and looks. It's about connection. To me, anyway.

    Take it easy!!!! Thanks for the fun post.

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  • Andrea Frazer, Good Housekeeping's Avatar
    Posted by Andrea Frazer, Good Housekeeping Tue Jun 24, 2008 1:57pm PDT

    Thanks for your recent comment on my sex blogs. One thing I really hate about this topic is that people everywhere type in "sex" or "technique" and up pops my column. I make no bones about it: My column is sponsored by Good Housekeeping, then syndicated here at Shine. It's not like I can write about major details and positions. And even if I could, I wouldn't. My view of sex is one from a connection point first. Not that that is the only way to have sex. Women like you are more physically oriented first, and that's totally fine. My beef is when people search for sex, get my site, then get all pissed off when I don't serve up the porn or details they were looking for.

    Anyway, I look forward to hearing from you and will check in w/your stuff too!

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  • Beth's Avatar
    Posted by Beth Thu Jun 26, 2008 7:44am PDT

    I love your blogs Andrea! They give a nice balance with the homebased relationship among all the sex posts hehe.

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  • Matthew Y's Avatar
    Posted by Matthew Y Wed Jul 2, 2008 10:12am PDT

    I love it when a girl takes initiative and calls me out. Rarely happens, so when it does- it's really nice

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