Hey, I need some help to reassure my guy.

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  Posted by elle Wed Feb 11, 2009 5:10pm PST

  The best advice for you is to reassure your man that you are more than happy with what he is working with. Take your time and consider that this guy has some serious issues and that is to be expected based on what you have said about his past. Go slow and be patient. This guy will come out his shell, he just needs to know within himself that you won't hurt him the way others have.

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  Posted by MZ-BRIZY809 Thu Feb 12, 2009 7:33am PST

  let him know i love you either way and i know you can satisfy me better than anyone else.

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  Posted by John Thu Feb 12, 2009 11:50am PST

  Some words of encouragment and in time he should come around. guys are tough but even we feel insecure in matters of sex and satisfaction.

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  Posted by Joe Thu Feb 12, 2009 1:52pm PST

  I think you have a great opportunity here that you can choose to take advantage of. You can teach him!! You have to be completely honest and open because if he senses your lying or holding back he will sense it and probably scar him further. I would start just by talking about sex things you like don't like. The more he gets comfortable talking about it, he will probably become more comfortable with the idea of actually having sex again. And don't coddle him, if he says that he's not good enough for you tell him he's right but he can work on it and you can help him.

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  Posted by Random Guy Thu Feb 12, 2009 2:50pm PST

  just take it slow at irst and be patient with him and understadin i had he same problem with my ex (we broke up over other reasons) and she never though swas ood nough for me cause she wasnt exaactly the good girl next door but i still loved her but she had been treated bad by so many other guys so just make sure to take it sow and always comliment him and incourage him

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  Posted by sam Sat Feb 14, 2009 11:22pm PST

  I can relate, not once but twice and although I know they were just saying it to be vindictive, words like that really go to the bone, re-assuring him will make him feel like your patronizing him. I'd say not to lay it on to thick. a guy knows his limitations. Be prepared for this to take a while to smooth over. the best way to get him thru this is to pursue him sexualy what better way to make him feel better about himself than to show him he has something you desire.

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  Posted by the planner Tue Feb 17, 2009 12:33pm PST

  sam had it pretty much right I think. Your laying back getting what your willing to take, then complaining about it. Take your guy for the ride of his life as often as you can, note: I didn't say as often as you wanted to. Take him morning noon and nite and when he "feels" your really ok with him, that your not just going to "settle" his manhood will show up. Anyone can tell if it's really satisfying, to the other, you've shown him, your not. Show him you want all he's got, and then some, and that what he does have, is grrrrrrrrreat! You can selfishly call it the male ego, if you want, but it's about feeling up to the challenge for him. After a few misdirected attempts,he will show up ready to be all you know he can be, AND all the he wants to be for you, the ONE woman that he doesn't feel, inferior to every time he makes love with you. Get hot and bothered, and let him see it. He doesn't as yet, see that you desire him, Good Lord girl, show him you need him, in everyway, including the bedroom.

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  Posted by Moonless Night Sun Feb 22, 2009 8:21am PST

  Thanks guys. I hope this will work.

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