HOW CAN YOU MOVE ON AT THE SPEED OF LIGHT????

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  Posted by Sunbeam Mon Nov 9, 2009 4:28am PST

  I had the same problem right now. I find it difficult to move on. Its 3 years past when i lost the person i learnt to loved. I didn't felt bad losing some of my exes but losing this person that we had a lots' of things in common, and brought me up to the pedestal made me crushed to the ground.I can't just forget that beautiful feelings and moments with him.I don't think so that he will be coming back. I can still have a very vivid visions of him every single day . And it hurts that he is no longer within my reach. They say its easy to forget a dead person than the one who is still alive. The expectation of coming back is still there.That hinders the speed of moving on.So instead of crying and being lonely, I find consolation on the things that reminds me of him.Just like being near/friendly to his people etc.Sound weird right? but that's the only way to keep me going while waiting for his replacement.

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  Posted by Sunbeam Mon Nov 9, 2009 4:29am PST

  I had the same problem right now. I find it difficult to move on. Its 3 years past when i lost the person i learnt to loved. I didn't felt bad losing some of my exes but losing this person that we had a lots' of things in common, and brought me up to the pedestal made me crushed to the ground.I can't just forget that beautiful feelings and moments with him.I don't think so that he will be coming back. I can still have a very vivid visions of him every single day . And it hurts that he is no longer within my reach. They say its easy to forget a dead person than the one who is still alive. The expectation of coming back is still there.That hinders the speed of moving on.So instead of crying and being lonely, I find consolation on the things that reminds me of him.Just like being near/friendly to his people etc.Sound weird right? but that's the only way to keep me going while waiting for his replacement.

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  Posted by wildchild Tue Nov 10, 2009 2:00am PST

  Sorry Sunbeam, but i disagree you can not think that that way. You have to just think about you and how great you are cause after all he fell in love with ya right? But guy's have the tendencie's to want to stray and have several woman. So, i say get passed it get dressed up, have a good time not being sleazy but just loving life and yourself and seeing all that their are so many other men out their that you will find compatible with you eventually.

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  Posted by Feri Tue Nov 10, 2009 2:03am PST

  hey i also come frm a simile problem ,my advise wil be consitrate on things that make you happy , have a positive attitude ,your life dont revolve around him ,you were born alone you have the power of your life dont let the memories take control use them to your advantate ,next time when you engage your slf in relationship put you first

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  Posted by ms.dayandnight Tue Nov 10, 2009 2:12am PST

  Travel! He was your fiance, this is getting to be too much with these guys. I think that maybe you should switch up working out @ that paticular gym. Furthermore, DO NOT STOP LIVING: KEEP DOING THE THINGS THAT YOU LOVE AND GOOD @, GO OUT WITH SOME FRIENDS, BUT MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF SO YOU CAN REJUVENATE, LET TIME PASS BY AND SEE IF HE WILL MAN UP, AND IF HE DO NOT THEN I think that when you do get out you should not feel guilty about hanging out/dating. Dating is just that you do not have to screw, but keep in mind people help people grow, and another thing I have learned that time reveals & heals everything in time, so continue to do U. I wish well in your journey & may God Bless U! P.S. Instead of looking @ things like you can do bad by yourself one of our Shine friends once told me that I can do Great by myself and I really think that good comes to those that wait and when your significant other come along take your lessons and stand for something so you do not fall for anything. Peace be with you until we type again.

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