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Wednesday, December 2, 2009

How do you define "sex"?

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Remember when former President Bill Clinton said oral sex wasn't sex? South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford recently admit that he "crossed lines" with women other than his wife and the Argentine mistress, but "didn't cross the sex line." So what exactly does that entail?

The definition of sex has never been totally clear, and with indefinite terms like "hooking up" the lines are increasingly blurred. While some classify any type of foreplay using sexual parts as "sex," others will only label intercourse with actual penetration as "sex." But would this include anal sex or lovemaking between two lesbians?

"Sex is a word and nobody is really in charge of that term," says Kinsey Institute scientist Erick Janssen. "In a way, our thinking of sex and definitions of sex is more complex than they were in the past."

A study conducted in 1991 that surveyed 599 college students, found that 37% of women considered oral sex to be "sex," as opposed to 44% of men. In a 1996 survey, those stats rose to 46% and 52% respectively. "These data make it clear that general agreement regarding what constitutes having 'had sex' and how sexual partners counted cannot be taken for granted," concluded Kinsey researchers Stephanie Sanders and June Reinisch.

According to a book by Australian sex researchers, "touching blow the waist" constitute getting to third base in the 1960s. Now second base implies touching whereas third base usually denotes oral sex.

Whether you consider "sex" to be oral, anal or vaginal intercourse or even mutual masturbation one thing is for sure: participating in any of these behaviors with someone besides your spouse is cheating. Politicians are great public speakers and thus can be very sneaky in finessing and manipulating their words to avoid trouble, but we all know when they admit to a "hookup" that none of it was kosher.

How would you define the bases these days? What do you think is constitutes "sex"? [AP]
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  • char's Avatar
    Posted by char Tue Jul 7, 2009 3:41pm PDT

    What about cyber sex? Phone sex? Is that official cheating? Yes, I think so.

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  • Alexander Winchester's Avatar
    Posted by Alexander Winchester Tue Jul 7, 2009 4:17pm PDT

    Do people really spend this much time thinking about this, really? Seems like this article was written for the sake of a deadline and nothing else. And by the way statistics can be fixed all depends on how you ask the question. Seems like writers like this cater to those who are incapable of thinking for themselves

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  • Optimo's Avatar
    Posted by Optimo Tue Jul 7, 2009 4:39pm PDT

    ORAL, ANAL, AND MASTERBATION IS ALL A PART OF SEX.

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  • amadis's Avatar
    Posted by amadis Tue Jul 7, 2009 6:12pm PDT

    i'm sure that if two people are in the mood for some loving or just at the same at the same time it's no big deal in how you look at it..sex is sex and it happens everyday...you could be single,in a relationship,married and still looking for that certain type..what exactly is that??? SEX IS FUN AND FEELS GREAT SO IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW IT'S DONE BECAUSE IT CAN BE ORAL,ANAL,MAKING LOVE,ROUGH SEX AND SO ON..SEX IS STILL SEX NO MATTER HOW YOU LOOK AT IT....

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  • Razziano's Avatar
    Posted by Razziano Wed Jul 8, 2009 2:24am PDT

    love it,the smell,taste,the very thought of it,makes me wild.

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  • Arnold swollen pecker's Avatar
    Posted by Arnold swollen pecker Wed Jul 8, 2009 1:39pm PDT

    Doktor Eevol has it right on....people are going to define it however it fits thier situation.

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  • evan's Avatar
    Posted by evan Wed Jul 8, 2009 2:04pm PDT

    I think any form of contact that can lead to orgasm is sex. It doesn't have to. But if it could then you have to consider it sex. And Aderoju, you need to go back to elementary school and learn how to spell before you post any more comments.

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  • Tammy's Avatar
    Posted by Tammy Wed Jul 8, 2009 9:04pm PDT

    a very interesting thing.....i think that sex is is supposer to be something that is shared between people that realy love eachother and not just for fun.......i mean i just cant say much!!!!!!!!

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  • Doc's Avatar
    Posted by Doc Fri Jul 31, 2009 7:45am PDT

    sex is sex, no matter what form.

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