How important are common interests in a relationship?

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  Posted by momo Mon May 4, 2009 3:41am PDT

  She is absolutely right on her story,i think a person should get used to his girlfriend's or boy friend's behaviour other wise he or she will always fail to live with the others.It is very reare to find some who matches your behaviour.

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  Posted by Aarren Mon May 4, 2009 6:22am PDT

  My boyfriend and I have everything in common but at the same time we bugg out sometimes but we stay kool but when it comes time for our differences we break it all the way down so you good with your differences but a'll need to find some common ground something that makes ya'll click like your life would end without each other

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  Posted by another hockey fan Mon May 4, 2009 1:34pm PDT

  I think it depends upon the couple. Apparently it works for you. For me, I need to have some common interests with a love for rock music being a necessity. I guess that's why almost all of my exes have been involved in music (mostly playing) and my current hubby is a musician too :-)

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  Posted by maria Mon May 4, 2009 4:16pm PDT

  I think common interests are important but won't make or break a relationship. I also am quite the opposite of my fiance in many ways but we do have similar living habits and we do tend to like the same kind of people. Also even though we like to do different things, we make an effort in taking interest in what the other person is interested in. There is a lot of give and take that goes on in a relationship. Basically I don't think your relationship is doomed because you guys like so many different things, it doesn't mean you have nothing in common. I already know one thing you both have in common, you both like each other!

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  Posted by tigress43 Mon May 4, 2009 6:08pm PDT

  You are so right-on there, Popdaskittles. :)

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  Posted by LoverLumps Tue May 5, 2009 10:02am PDT

  Well I am not sure... me and the hubby are the exact copies of each other just different gendered LOL!! We game for hours/ enjoy the same music/ play mmos together/ we spend every waking moment with each other except when he has to go to work otherwise we are glued to each other... we have dependency issues is what people tell us but it works for us... we rather hang out at home than go chill with out friends unless we can both go... you would think we would get on each others nerves but we never do... a match made in heaven^^

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  Posted by Kelvin J Tue May 5, 2009 2:50pm PDT

  Common interests are a necessity and I think people just understate them when they make statements like these. By no means do you have to agree on everything or even a majority of things, but there has to be something you both enjoy doing other than say uh . . .sex.

  You both seem to like movies just not the same type. That's not a difference as long as you both like watching movies together. Sure your tastes are different but you like the same activity nonetheless. Being opposite would be more like he would rather play video games rather than watch movies. You being a non-drinker and him a sophisticated social drinker is also far from different. Would you even consider him if he went out every weekend? Again not a real difference because its obvious neither of you are into the sloppy party crowd. You both have a strong conservative approach to the consumption of alcohol. Along that line I'm sure you both share the same set of values and social standards otherwise you wouldn't be together. Its beautiful that you can look at each others difference and respect them, but I really don't think that you are complete opposites.

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